Just need to vent.
My husband died 9 months ago. I have some fantastic friends and we, 5 of us used to go out together for coffee or drinks etc.
Now we are down to 4 in the group we still meet often. We are, myself and my best friend and 2 men who I’ve known for many years.
We are all now single.
I was very shocked a couple of nights ago when a couple of people, who I thought were good friends suggested that I get together with one of the men in my group and didn't want to take no for an answer saying things like, you are both single, everyone needs a companion etc.
I couldn’t believe that they could be so insensitive.
I had been coping well up to that point but I was very upset and was once again overwhelmed with grief.
I have calmed down since and went out with the group today and told them what had been said. I think they were as shocked as I was but I think it was the right thing to do particularly as I will be driving the man in question for a hospital appointment this week and would have felt very uncomfortable on my own with him even though he knew nothing about it.
Anyway, I’m now back on an even keel but isn’t it sad that some people just can’t cope with the idea of a single woman, particularly a widow.
After caring for my husband for about three years until cancer finally gave both of us a release from that awful disease, I am actually quite enjoying the freedom I now have and at the age of 71 not interested in another relationship.
I don’t expect replies to my post but for those who made it to the end thank you for reading.
My husband died 9 months ago. I have some fantastic friends and we, 5 of us used to go out together for coffee or drinks etc.
Now we are down to 4 in the group we still meet often. We are, myself and my best friend and 2 men who I’ve known for many years.
We are all now single.
I was very shocked a couple of nights ago when a couple of people, who I thought were good friends suggested that I get together with one of the men in my group and didn't want to take no for an answer saying things like, you are both single, everyone needs a companion etc.
I couldn’t believe that they could be so insensitive.
I had been coping well up to that point but I was very upset and was once again overwhelmed with grief.
I have calmed down since and went out with the group today and told them what had been said. I think they were as shocked as I was but I think it was the right thing to do particularly as I will be driving the man in question for a hospital appointment this week and would have felt very uncomfortable on my own with him even though he knew nothing about it.
Anyway, I’m now back on an even keel but isn’t it sad that some people just can’t cope with the idea of a single woman, particularly a widow.
After caring for my husband for about three years until cancer finally gave both of us a release from that awful disease, I am actually quite enjoying the freedom I now have and at the age of 71 not interested in another relationship.
I don’t expect replies to my post but for those who made it to the end thank you for reading.