As I now seem to be spending a lot of my time on here getting advice from you lovely people I thought I'd share what happened with those unwanted friends....a few weeks ago, just before I was going away on holiday, I had a late call from the woman telling me my mum had had a fall and that 'you need to get over here now' (in a far from pleasant manner). I told her that as I had had a glass and a half of wine, I couldn't/wouldn't drive half an hour down a dual carriageway late at night so I couldn't go. Her response was to start shouting at me that I was a bad daughter....well, that was it....I've held my tongue for a couple of years and it takes a lot to get me angry, but I think you'd call what came out of my mouth 'rage'. I told her exactly what I thought of her and in the end, I had to hang up as I felt like I was literally going to explode with anger! Needless to say, I haven't heard from them since and it seems like they might have backed off from my mum a bit, although I can't say for sure as she doesn't know who she's seen or spoken to.