Hi all. This is a first for me. This year we celebrated our 40th wedding anniversary. Two years ago this month,l came home from work to find my then 57 year old wife in an extremely agitated and panicked state.she couldn't understand where I'd been, eventually she calmed down. I've never forgotten that evening as I think that was the start. Over the next 12 months there were other equally odd events, getting lost in familiar places, forgetful, repeating questions and increasing episodes of confusion. It was around October last year that she stopped driving. I was worried enough to make an appointment with my gp. The hard thing to do was get my wife to go. I succeeded in getting her to go as I was concerned about her weight loss. She chatted to the gp about herself then did a memory test and passed. That was that, I'd never get her to go again, all her blood tests were OK, she'd passed that test, there was nothing wrong with Her! But there was, I'd noticed, our four daughters had noticed and her work colleagues had also noticed. Everyone could see a change but her. She used to be so organised,but now, sometimes if she's been looking for something you'd swear we'd had burglars, chaos. Things got worse over Christmas and new year. She was struggling at work too and by April she had to go off on long term sickness. At least now she had to have monthly gp visits. She had another memory test with the gp, she passed but she had deteriorated noticeably. She was referred to the memory clinic and had her first assessment and mmse and passed, still she was in denial.a couple of months later, September, she saw another nurse from the clinic, this time assessed for stress anxiety and depression. The it was decided it probably was a memory problem. Yet another mmse, this time not so good, she dropped seven points ,thats over five months. Now they're concerned, shes seen a psychiatrist, is getting a designated nurse and next week is being assessed as to how she can cope in the home. Also next week she's booked in for a spect scan, which I hope will give us an answer. Some of her memory problems seem quite severe, for example, she was asked how many children do you have, she had to think and do a finger count, we have calendars, diaries, a new whiteboard and after two occasions recently when she decided to get up just before midnight for a 2pm appointment, I've invested in two dementia clocks. Even that isn't always successful. It's Saturday night and several times she's been talking about Monday tomorrow so I'm hoping for a diagnosis soon. But I'm also aware it could come back clear. I handed my notice in this week. It's a big step but I'm more use at home the way things are, yes I'll miss it, over the last few months work has provided some respite. But now,,it's for the best. Even now with everything going on she is still in denial, she's convinced I'm taking early retirement because of my health. Whatever this is its so hard on her, I know we'll cope with whatever is thrown at us, lm not going to say we've had it worse because we haven't, but there are plenty worse off than us. Sorry it's gone on a bit but it's hard putting two years into a few words. I'll keep it short next time, AL60