Hi again. I thought I was hoping for too much. Two good days, back to back. Not a chance. And it was all down to one word. Last Monday we had a visit from a woman from the welfare office. She came out to help us/me to fill one of those benefit claim forms. I wasn't looking forward to it, I was dreading it, in fact, I needn't have worried, she was excellent, she really put my wife at ease and was extremely tactful with the various questions. Once again worrying about something needlessly. On Tuesday morning, another visitor, this time to assess our needs for a sitting service, four hours a week, what could possibly be wrong with that. Well, on the face of it, nothing, the visit went well. Two days later we received a copy of the letter documenting what was discussed at the meeting. Still no problem, the letter was addressed to my wife, she read it and seemed quite happy with it. So, when I came downstairs this morning I was surprised to find her reading the same letter over and over again, that same letter, which was fine yesterday, what could possibly have upset her. One word. I'm not having that. They can have the letter back, it isn't right, its disgusting what they've put, and so on and so on. Of course, this lead to other things, like, I don't need anyone looking after me, I can do perfectly fine on my own etc, I've heard it many times. The word, it was to be found under sexual orientation, heterosexual, it's now been crossed out and a rather obvious NO written in black pen next to it. She then spent an hour trying to delete the word from the Internet. That seems to be the way she tries to cope with many of her problems, if there's something she doesn't like or want, just delete it. No amount of explanation can convince her people can't just be deleted. Anyway the day started badly and never quite recovered. At least the sun shone so I was able to lose myself in the garden once again.
By the way, as I was trying to explain to her about, that word, I told her I too was heterosexual, she was shocked, forty years married and never knew. Dementia is more than memory loss, power to reason, common sense, whole personality changes. It really is starting to feel like I'm living with a stranger in the house. Not to worry, let's see what tomorrow brings. Al.