Sending you strength and hoping your mum finds peace xxBless you Fullmoon, it seems we are heading that way ourselves as the GP has said blood results of mums jaundice are either an obstruction in the gallbladder or maybe cancer of some kind. No more can be done, she's just to be kept comfortable x
The warmth returning happened to dad also...just when I felt the end was close as his legs were cold up to his thighs...his knees warmed up..and so the wait continued. Try and get some rest...refresh..eat..before you go back. As you say it could happen at any time and even when you just nip out to the toilet. I stayed at dad's NH with him for 6 days...nipped home..and he passed away!Just left the NH after a very long day. Mum was very restless before the driver was fitted and remained so for over two hours so a sub-cut of diamorphine was used to make her comfortable. This took over an hour to kick in. Her feet are again warm after being very cold today - the coldness had travelled up to her knee but now she seems normal again. She had been sleeping peacefully for some while before I left. It really is difficult to know whether to stay or go as I suppose anything could happen now. The staff have assured me she will be checked at least every 30 minutes and as we lived very close I am hoping I would get to her if any significant change occurs. After 14 hours today I do feel emotionally and physically tired.
This forum is such a comfort, by sharing here I know I am not alone in what I am experiencing.The warmth returning happened to dad also...just when I felt the end was close as his legs were cold up to his thighs...his knees warmed up..and so the wait continued. Try and get some rest...refresh..eat..before you go back. As you say it could happen at any time and even when you just nip out to the toilet. I stayed at dad's NH with him for 6 days...nipped home..and he passed away!
Praying for continued strength to help you through this most difficult of times. Praying also for peace for your dear Mum.The vigil continues. We stayed with mum until 4:30am this morning as her breathing changed a couple of times and she needed extra diamorphine in addition to her driver. We decided to go get some rest as I had been with her since 10am previous day. At 7:47am nurse was ringing to say breathing had changed so we rushed back.
Mum has had another diamorphine top up this afternoon and her driver had been repositioned to her tummy. This is Day 9 since she became ill and day three of the driver. This wretched disease just won’t let her find peace
How often people said that to me over those last emergencies and it did seem as if my mother was going to defy everybody by gaining a Guinness record for survival . I even broke down in tears at one point thinking I can't go through this again. I thought she would outlive me as I was near the edge. However one day it did all come to an end and she went very gently- for which I am extremely grateful.Still holding your virtual hand
It will end, though it feels like forever while you are going through it.
The vigil continues. We stayed with mum until 4:30am this morning as her breathing changed a couple of times and she needed extra diamorphine in addition to her driver. We decided to go get some rest as I had been with her since 10am previous day. At 7:47am nurse was ringing to say breathing had changed so we rushed back.
Mum has had another diamorphine top up this afternoon and her driver had been repositioned to her tummy. This is Day 9 since she became ill and day three of the driver. This wretched disease just won’t let her find peace