Hi, Im a new member. I have cared for my mother-in-law for the last 8yrs. She lives with us - now two boys and a husband. She and my husband have never got on (understatement of the year). M refused to have him in her rooms, but now has refused to allow any men in. She is mute, but gets very agressive pushing and throwing things at any of them. This is causing huge problems as some of the carers that arrive from S.Services are male, which means that I can't go to work. SS say that they have not the staff to guarantee female carers and also can't discriminate. Their 'help' is to say that as the disease progresses, she won't recognise the difference anyway, but Im not so sure and I need to be able to get out for the kids, shopping etc and work. I'm also exhausted as all the evening, weekend and night help is down to me. Any ideas?