I don’t know those but there must be Hundreds of us through the country .
I this helps I don’t understand why everyone thinks the worst or doom and gloom when they hear the words DEMENTIA because it isn’t like that I don’t know how long I have had dementia but I had diagnoses over 15 years I have never been in any Pain and apart from forgetting a few things or where I put things its life as normal so of all the medical conditions Dementia isn’t so bad I think the art is accepting it and carrying on and let catch up with you rather than giving in to IT , just to finish I meet 7 other people with dementia every month and they feel exactly the same as me we carry living life to the full
Hi Tony. I think your post epitomises the fact that people diagnosed with any illness, are so different from each other. It's good that you and your group members, and probably thousands of others, can still live such full lives, without the need of assistance from others.
But unfortunately, there are equally thousands who are very different. Who cannot drive a vehicle, because they have lost all awareness of danger, and the ability to apply the brakes, who are doubly incontinent, who are violent, who don't recognise their loved ones, and speak to them with hatred in their voices.
Those who, like me, care for a spouse, who are bone-weary with the endless treadmill of giving their undivided attention to their loved one. Who are probably not spring chickens themselves, but are willing to give every iota of energy to helping their spouses, and consequently ignoring their own health problems.
The word "illness" is an umbrella that can cover everything from the common cold to cancer. Similarly the word "dementia" can apply to folk who, unless you were made aware of it, give no impression whatsoever of having a thing wrong with them. But it can also apply to those at the other end of the spectrum.
Indeed you, and many others who have dementia and post on here, are eloquent, and able to express your thoughts and feelings with clarity. My husband for example, doesn't know how to turn on the light, let alone the computer! I wish you well.
ive been hoping beyond hope that mums memory was just a blip or something. been to consultant today and he says without a doubt its alzhiemers. he will give her a prescription for tablets but he told me I should prepare for things getting worse. I am sad beyond belief as I am now seeing my future in a dark place. don't get me wrong. I am quite prepared to look after mum, but i really don't know what is going to happen from now. so very very sad.
Hi Spuddle,having the awareness that your mum has got Alzheimer is a life changing experience.I was be friending a lady in a previous experience and I discovered with her a rich world based on memories of the past as childhood,adolescence, friends, early adulthood.Also she enjoyed to be helpful as describing what she was doing when she was a nurse and the enjoyment she found in doing her job properly.I think the most important thing is keep on talking with your mum, a good conversation and involvement in small things around her house can be useful.Some tips are: ask her to make a cup of tea or folding some clothes to keep away in the wardrobe or look at old pictures of her in different events.Let me know then how is going.Take care
ive been hoping beyond hope that mums memory was just a blip or something. been to consultant today and he says without a doubt its alzhiemers. he will give her a prescription for tablets but he told me I should prepare for things getting worse. I am sad beyond belief as I am now seeing my future in a dark place. don't get me wrong. I am quite prepared to look after mum, but i really don't know what is going to happen from now. so very very sad.