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Hi. I don’t have a husband (divorced many moons ago)but I do have a controlling dad(not so bad now). Dad is passive aggressive I would say.Good Evening, Just wondering if anyone else has a husband like mine, that insists that I am in the same room as him, when I take a phone call? If I’m in another room and he hears the phone, he will open the door to listen in.
If I receive a call and he’s listening to the TV, then I will take the call upstairs. He starts angrily shouting and getting very annoyed and starts banging his zimmer and doors. He tells me every time I get a text, even if I’m reading it and wants to know who’s sent a text and what they have said. The same with emails.
If I’m eating, he gets so angry if I don’t answer him straight away. He expects me to choke and give instant, constant answers.
I do everything for him, answer the same questions over and over again during the day/night.
I am beginning to resent his behaviour and after 30 years of his many, many health conditions including being disabled with MS and having MS Dementia, I am worn out.
He is so controlling...
Dad has a permanent catheter too. He has an infection with it as it was oozing pus and blood.So now antibiotics and a chest X-ray to be dealt with. I wasn’t dad’s favourite person yesterday but hey hoHello and thank you for your reply and telling it as it is and I appreciate that.
Woke up this morning and he was literally covered in urine, pyjamas, bedding, mattress protector and mattress all soaked through.
Basically, the nurse had changed his indwelling catheter last week, as it was blocked and he was bypassing.
When the indwelling part is replaced, it comes with a leg bag already attached and once the straps are attached, it is all sorted. This morning, all he had was the leg bag with the plastic upper pipe bit still attached, but the rubber stopper attachment missing, so in theory all the urine was dripping down. As he usually passes 1-1.5 litres of urine each night, there was quite a mess to clear up. Pyjamas in the wash, new leg bag attached, showered and dried him and he’s good to go.
Nothing like all this to put you off your breakfast and all he says is: “Did I ask you to sort it?” (in a condescending manner).
He really wouldn’t have a clue.
I tell him that only I must attend to his leg bag and I empty it during the day, however, if there’s even an egg cup full of urine in his bag and he’s gone to open his bowels for the sixth time that day, I have occasionally found him with one leg on the toilet bowl trying to empty it and the tap lever on it all twisted. So, thinking about it all, he’s probably made it loose and he does have nightly muscle spasms.
He will never store any advice I give him and I can’t sit outside the bathroom for hours on end...
Ive had this happen too. OMG, it took some clearing up. OH passes about 1.5 - 2 litres of urine overnight, but practically nothing during the day (a condition called nocturnal polyuria), so he only has to empty the lag bag once a day in the evening. OH has a valve with a cylinder that slides from side to side, rather than a lever as he finds this easier due to his hand tremor. Do you think your OH might find it easier too?This morning, all he had was the leg bag with the plastic upper pipe bit still attached, but the rubber stopper attachment missing, so in theory all the urine was dripping down. As he usually passes 1-1.5 litres of urine each night, there was quite a mess to clear up.
Im afraid this is impossible to predict on a forum - it depends entirely on where it is in the brain, how bad it is, how quickly the bleed resolves and how motivated she is with the physio. Having got her into hospital promptly will give her the best chance, thoughA close 77 year old relative had a brain bleed/stroke 11 days ago. She called me for help, as I’ve been doing her shopping, as she has asthma and COPD. I called an ambulance straight away, as her speech was impaired and I wondered if she’d had a stroke. She is having physio in hospital, can only stand with help, unable to walk at the moment and I’m hoping she gets her mobility back with physio. What are the chances of this please?