Hi Maggie
thankyou for your reply I know no two cases of dementia are the same but family circumstances are obviously similar for us. If I am totally honest I resent my brother not offering more help but he is not a bad man just thoughtless best of it is he was always mums favourite mammys boy and daddys girl ( dad died age 50) he was also the one who wanted to put into a home some years ago. As my two older kids have children themselves and my 3rd daughter is in Manchester doing PGCE with my baby of 21 studying away from home only home weekends it has all fallen to my husband and I. I did ask my brother years ago to share the burden but he just said mum was happier with us and pops down for 3/4 hour a week. I suppose the resentment stems from the fact I feel I could have gone on a while longer if I had had the extra support. Oh well it is what it is and we all have to live with our own conscience We have looked after mum for a long time now she has lived with us for nearly thirty years so I hope she settles in the home if not we will have to think about taking her home again but I do want to give it a fair chance so am trying to stay strong. My thoughts are with you Maggie please keep in touch Liz
thankyou for your reply I know no two cases of dementia are the same but family circumstances are obviously similar for us. If I am totally honest I resent my brother not offering more help but he is not a bad man just thoughtless best of it is he was always mums favourite mammys boy and daddys girl ( dad died age 50) he was also the one who wanted to put into a home some years ago. As my two older kids have children themselves and my 3rd daughter is in Manchester doing PGCE with my baby of 21 studying away from home only home weekends it has all fallen to my husband and I. I did ask my brother years ago to share the burden but he just said mum was happier with us and pops down for 3/4 hour a week. I suppose the resentment stems from the fact I feel I could have gone on a while longer if I had had the extra support. Oh well it is what it is and we all have to live with our own conscience We have looked after mum for a long time now she has lived with us for nearly thirty years so I hope she settles in the home if not we will have to think about taking her home again but I do want to give it a fair chance so am trying to stay strong. My thoughts are with you Maggie please keep in touch Liz