Today is John's birthday

[Skye]

No problem, Sarah. I know you've been busy.

I hope it's going well.

Love,

 

[Saffie]

Only just caught up with your thread. what a beatiful place to visit and remember John. A lovely thought to have a Garden of Remembrance and to be able to plant a tree for John. He'll always be there for you, as well as in your heart of course.
I do hope your spirits will lift soon. Sending you lots of love - and sympathy for what you are going through - X

 

[noelphobic]

I've only just seen this thread Hazel. My mum's birthday was July 7th also. She would have been 91. Some of the best people were born that day .

 

[noelphobic]

Apart from that, it's all good. John was a wonderful man, and I was so lucky that he chose me.

Love,

I am sure that John was just as lucky that you chose him, and that he knew it x

 

[Skye]

Thanks Brenda.

Love,

 

[Loopiloo]

I feel pain every birthday Ken has. His birthday is on New Years Day and every year of our marriage up to his illness we either threw a party or went to a party and immediately after auld lange syne we all sang happy birthday to him. Now I spend New Year's eve alone with my memories and New Year's day with him in the care home. xxTinaT

I know how you feel, Tina. Henry's birthday is also New Year's Day. Apart from one New Year when I was in hospital after having our first baby (born Christmas morn) this past New Year was our first apart. (Henry in hospital) I too was alone with my memories on Hogmanay. I poured two glasses of whisky, raised the first to the New Year, raised the second to Henry and thought "here's to next New Year" thinking he would be home. But he never came home.

Couldn't even visit him on his birthday, The car had a couple of feet of frozen snow around and on top of it, and no buses running over the two New Year holidays, and the few taxis operating were like gold dust.

This New Year will be hard, Henry's first in the care home, and his 80th. Can't believe he will be that age. Had all been normal we would have been doing something special.

Sorry to butt in, what you wrote struck a cord.

Love
Loo xxx

 

[Loopiloo]

Dear Hazel

You and John shall be in my thoughts and heart on Monday, and I am sure also in many others.

Love
Loo xxx

 

[Skye]

Thank you Loo.

Love,

 

[Skye]

I went to the Loch today, and it was beautiful. The weather is perfect, the loch was still, and the swans and ducks were enjoying the water.

I tidied up John's plot, and put in a few new plants, hoping the rabbits will leave them alone. Then I just sat in the sunshine for a while. There were a few other people there, but they were the other side of the loch.

The peace was wonderful.




The Loch.







The cygnets have grown up. The building is the chapel.

 

[Loopiloo]

Dear Hazel

Beautiful photos of a beautiful place, so peaceful. A place of solace. Thank you for sharing.

Love
Loo xxx

 

[Nan2seven]

Dear Hazel, I have only just found this thread.
I remembered the earlier photograph of John.
I can't believe it was over a year ago.
The pictures of the loch are beautiful. So tranquil.
Thinking of you and sending love,
Nan XXX

 

[Skye]

Thank you Kassy, Loo and Nan.

The crematorium was only built about three years ago, and they've made wonderful use of the natural features. The memorial trees are round the loch, and there are woodland walks and a peace garden the other side of tha chapel. No cut flowers are allowed, but you can plant a small area round your tree.

It's really beautiful.