well what can I say, we have been dropped into this situation as the result of my sons grandfathers death, his Nan was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s 6 months ago she is at stage 4/5. We are helping to look after her doing 5 nights and 5 days, my son and his brother both work really long hours and their wives work too, they also have young families, so we said we would help out in the interim period until they got a care firm on board. She is waking us up regularly at between 3-4 am and I keep telling her it’s the middle of the night. She woke us up at 3am this morning I told her it was the middle of the night and that we were not getting up, she went back to bed reluctantly then at 6.40 she stormed into our room shouting at us « are you getting up at all today » I quietly told her not to speak to me like that and that you can not get up at 3am it’s the middle of the night « she said I can do whatever I bloody want to ». And since then I have had the silent treatment.
My sons Nan was always volatile and nasty before the Alzheimer’s her and her husband were very wealthy but unfortunately it gave them the attitude that they could speak to people like dirt, money has given them an arrogance, they had a very toxic unhappy marriage and basically stayed together again because of money. We are starting carers next week as I have told my son we can not carry on as I have a number of serious health issues myself, my worry is that if she treats the carers like that would the company decide to pull out, she can be really aggressive her and her husband regularly came to blows with her being as bad as him physically hitting each other. Honestly I could have walked out today, it’s only because I know she would be at risk if left alone that’s keeping me here, and of course she thinks there is nothing wrong with her, should we remind her that she does have Alzheimer’s or not, I’m going to contact her nurse today to get medication to help her sleep as non of us can function on 4 hrs sleep a night. So sorry to moan but you are the only people who really understand what we are going through. Any advice welcome thanks
My sons Nan was always volatile and nasty before the Alzheimer’s her and her husband were very wealthy but unfortunately it gave them the attitude that they could speak to people like dirt, money has given them an arrogance, they had a very toxic unhappy marriage and basically stayed together again because of money. We are starting carers next week as I have told my son we can not carry on as I have a number of serious health issues myself, my worry is that if she treats the carers like that would the company decide to pull out, she can be really aggressive her and her husband regularly came to blows with her being as bad as him physically hitting each other. Honestly I could have walked out today, it’s only because I know she would be at risk if left alone that’s keeping me here, and of course she thinks there is nothing wrong with her, should we remind her that she does have Alzheimer’s or not, I’m going to contact her nurse today to get medication to help her sleep as non of us can function on 4 hrs sleep a night. So sorry to moan but you are the only people who really understand what we are going through. Any advice welcome thanks