Does anyone have any useful tips to help me getting my husband up in the morning?
I am still working, and have to leave by 8am. I get myself ready, prepare breakfast, packed lunches and everything else by 7am, so that I have the best part of an hour to spend with my husband, to ease him into the day. He is safe throughout the day, with occasional visits/phone calls, and although he cannot tell the time any longer, he knows/remembers that I will be home by 4pm.
Just recently, I have had real difficulties waking him, and getting him to get out of bed, and on a couple of occasions I have had to leave him in bed. On those days, I have no idea whether he gets up 10 minutes after I've left, or 2 hours later. Unfortunately, I can't ask him to ring me, as he has forgotten how to make calls.
I know that dressing is a big challenge for him, as is food preparation, and he certainly would not take his medication. That's why a 'joint start' to the day seems the only answer: he can then relax in an armchair if he needs to, while I can get on with my job instead of worrying, fretting, and asking for time off to pop back home and check on him.
He is physically well, he has not had any new medication, he is not doing anything unusual or strenuous during the day, and we have brought 'bedtime' forward so much that he is usually asleep before 9pm now. I turn lights and music on gradually, before I actually try to wake him around 7am.
I have grown to dread every morning, as I feel so guilty for expecting something of him that is clearly too difficult, but changing my hours to work later is almost impossible, as that is the busiest time for me.
Sorry, I've gone on a bit - any ideas anyone?? Has anyone noticed a similar development?
Many thanks and kind regards, Carmen
I am still working, and have to leave by 8am. I get myself ready, prepare breakfast, packed lunches and everything else by 7am, so that I have the best part of an hour to spend with my husband, to ease him into the day. He is safe throughout the day, with occasional visits/phone calls, and although he cannot tell the time any longer, he knows/remembers that I will be home by 4pm.
Just recently, I have had real difficulties waking him, and getting him to get out of bed, and on a couple of occasions I have had to leave him in bed. On those days, I have no idea whether he gets up 10 minutes after I've left, or 2 hours later. Unfortunately, I can't ask him to ring me, as he has forgotten how to make calls.
I know that dressing is a big challenge for him, as is food preparation, and he certainly would not take his medication. That's why a 'joint start' to the day seems the only answer: he can then relax in an armchair if he needs to, while I can get on with my job instead of worrying, fretting, and asking for time off to pop back home and check on him.
He is physically well, he has not had any new medication, he is not doing anything unusual or strenuous during the day, and we have brought 'bedtime' forward so much that he is usually asleep before 9pm now. I turn lights and music on gradually, before I actually try to wake him around 7am.
I have grown to dread every morning, as I feel so guilty for expecting something of him that is clearly too difficult, but changing my hours to work later is almost impossible, as that is the busiest time for me.
Sorry, I've gone on a bit - any ideas anyone?? Has anyone noticed a similar development?
Many thanks and kind regards, Carmen