Thank you for all your kind words in my previous posts! I am exhausted by all of this but we have now made a joint decision to remove him from the surgery list!
This whole thing has been going on for two years. The biggest problem are his platelets. They are extremely low, no one has diagnosed why or how to get them up. The general opinion from two medic friends and copious googling is Leukaemia. That being said physically my dad is in not bad shape.
So back to the cataracts!
Two previous surgeons have said no because of the platlets. But we got another call up and I thought maybe things have changed, not the blood but medically/technology??? He had the blood test, he had the biometric test and yesterday was op day!
NBM from 8am, he didn't sleep the night before because of anxiety. We got him to the hospital in good time, we got called through, he was given his PJ's and slippers and little frilly cap. We sat and waited and waited. Eventually after much questioning and wandering the dr's came in and said that didn't understand why dad had even been given this appointment! There was no way they would operate with his platelet reading! Shocked and stunned and I had a mini breakdown, dad was speechless for once and they have now agreed to take him off the list.
In one sense I am relived that this is all over, but I now have to deal with dad who is now in a bad way. Hes just called me to say that he wants all his money out of the banks. Not sure how to deal with that one. I can hear in his voice what sort of a day it is going to be.
I have to get myself ready for work and will just stay in touch with him through the day.
I worry that he calls the banks and starts a ball rolling - he has direct debits and pensions coming in. I have POA but don't want to go over his head, I never really thought I would have to use it. I am completely drained now.
I am trying to do everything with his best interests at heart, I try to take away as much anxiety from him as possible, everything sends him into a tizzy.
Having read this back to myself it sounds really selfish, I, I, I. Sorry if it comes across that way, but I am doing everything.
Thank you for reading this and thank you for taking the time to respond, it really does mean the world to me.
Jxx
This whole thing has been going on for two years. The biggest problem are his platelets. They are extremely low, no one has diagnosed why or how to get them up. The general opinion from two medic friends and copious googling is Leukaemia. That being said physically my dad is in not bad shape.
So back to the cataracts!
Two previous surgeons have said no because of the platlets. But we got another call up and I thought maybe things have changed, not the blood but medically/technology??? He had the blood test, he had the biometric test and yesterday was op day!
NBM from 8am, he didn't sleep the night before because of anxiety. We got him to the hospital in good time, we got called through, he was given his PJ's and slippers and little frilly cap. We sat and waited and waited. Eventually after much questioning and wandering the dr's came in and said that didn't understand why dad had even been given this appointment! There was no way they would operate with his platelet reading! Shocked and stunned and I had a mini breakdown, dad was speechless for once and they have now agreed to take him off the list.
In one sense I am relived that this is all over, but I now have to deal with dad who is now in a bad way. Hes just called me to say that he wants all his money out of the banks. Not sure how to deal with that one. I can hear in his voice what sort of a day it is going to be.
I have to get myself ready for work and will just stay in touch with him through the day.
I worry that he calls the banks and starts a ball rolling - he has direct debits and pensions coming in. I have POA but don't want to go over his head, I never really thought I would have to use it. I am completely drained now.
I am trying to do everything with his best interests at heart, I try to take away as much anxiety from him as possible, everything sends him into a tizzy.
Having read this back to myself it sounds really selfish, I, I, I. Sorry if it comes across that way, but I am doing everything.
Thank you for reading this and thank you for taking the time to respond, it really does mean the world to me.
Jxx