Thinking of you and yours, Helen, and glad you have that feeling of peace.
We had this situation exactly with my gramps twice (chest infection, not wanting to send him to hospital but keeping him in the surroundings of his NH which he knew and with star nurses and doctors who were oh so compassionate and caring, with him and with us) and with Aunty Jean once. I couldn't be there with nan when it happened to her...
...and I remember the same sense of peace and calm while we were all together with them as a family, or the ones of us that could be there at the time. Almost totally at ease, sharing lots of memories, reminiscences, laughs and tears...support for each other and for gramps and Aunty Jean.
I'm sorry to hear about your Mum and it was good that you were all able to spend that time together in her room. It is very hard to let go, but there is a sense of peace when you feel able to say goodbye.
My Mum unexpectedly had a heart attack and died before we could get to the hospital, even though we went straight away. I think it would have been nice to have had some time together, but it is a comfort that she didn't suffer. I'm glad that your Mum seems to be so much better today.
Now I'm finding it hard to walk around the supermarket, because I keep rememberng all the times we went shopping and all her favourite foods and flowers bring back memories. I would like to buy myself some flowers to remind me of Mum, but I just can't bring myself to choose a bunch from the display. Instead of getting over losing her, I seem to be getting worse as I think of the times before she became so ill.
I just wish I had a brother or sister to share memories with.
I think that when our time comes, if we had a choice of how to end our life's journey, we would all choose to be surrounded by the people who love us........ with a peaceful setting and soft music and holding the hand of someone we love.............thats what you've given your mum and i've no doubt thats why your Mum was so settled and peaceful........i know she'd be proud of you.
Just remember that we are with you in thought.............i know your suffering and i hope the outcome is whatever you hope for.