Yet another day and my darling mum continues to fight, we are into the seventh week now after being told we would be lucky to have her with us for two, she hasn’t had food for over three weeks, just sips of tea and the odd beaker of warm ribena, the carers gave her a full body wash and change of nightwear today, seeing her frail tiny skeletal body laying there will haunt me forever, the trinity carers called today and were amazed to hear that she is still with us, they offered to take her into the hospice but we declined, we want to keep her at home where we can look after her. I’m on the edge literally, how much longer!
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It’s amazing how they manage to keep going when there literally nothing other than skin & bone. I can’t get the vision of mum out of my head either.
I hope her passing is a peaceful as my mums was, she literally just drifted off. We had been expecting it for a few weeks too, her last two weeks were in the hospice - due to her not allowing the carers or any of usa to care for her any more, just 4.5 stone, with a will & determination of steel!
After 8 weeks I still can’t believe she’s actually gone.
we are in the same position, almost exactly the same time scale, mum is in a NH and I am struggling so much, I am in awe of your ability to look after your mum at home.
Like you I am astounded that mums frail tiny body can go on for so long.
I hope they will both have peace soon.
Like you I am astounded that mums frail tiny body can go on for so long.
I hope they will both have peace soon.
Bless you, it is a comfort knowing I am not the only one going through this, it’s still a lonely path to walk on, so today we sit and we wait, I will hold her hand, stroke her cheek and tell her it’s all ok.
Love and hugs to you and yours x
I am in a similar position with my mother, age 95. Essentially, after a succession of minor falls, her legs failed her, leading to hospitalisation on 10 March. She returned home at the start of April for 4 days before returning to the hospital.
She is now unable to leave her bed or straighten her legs. She is a "bag of bones" and eats close to nothing. She has had infections. She imagines that she is in prison and that her carers are exceptionally cruel. On morphine, she sleeps most of the time but is traumatised when she is momentarily lucid.
Her major organs continue to keep her alive.
She is now unable to leave her bed or straighten her legs. She is a "bag of bones" and eats close to nothing. She has had infections. She imagines that she is in prison and that her carers are exceptionally cruel. On morphine, she sleeps most of the time but is traumatised when she is momentarily lucid.
Her major organs continue to keep her alive.
Hello Jane3. Yes, my mother has been in hospital for 40 days, save for three intervening days at home. She has been on morphine for this period. NHS is arranging for Fast Track to a nursing home, but this is progressing slowly. She has rapidly declined physically and mentally, but I have no way of judging when the end will come. Do post to let us know here how matters progress.
these posts are a lifeline for me as I am on my own.
Sterlingtimes , I hope the morphine will give your mum some peace and allow her to pass peacefully. mum will sometimes wake with a start and be very confused and fearful of where she is. i can only hope it doesn't happen too often when I am not there to reassure her. She also says that she is fed up and once that she should be shot. I am glad that the fog of dementia descends most of the time leaving her unaware (hopefully) of what is going on.
again thank you for the posts
Sterlingtimes , I hope the morphine will give your mum some peace and allow her to pass peacefully. mum will sometimes wake with a start and be very confused and fearful of where she is. i can only hope it doesn't happen too often when I am not there to reassure her. She also says that she is fed up and once that she should be shot. I am glad that the fog of dementia descends most of the time leaving her unaware (hopefully) of what is going on.
again thank you for the posts
I’m so sorry @Jane3 I imagine you are breathing every breath with your mum.
When my husband was dying I sat by his bed with my hand under the covers stroking his arm The carers told me to talk to him, saying hearing was the last sense to go but I couldn’t. All I could do was sit stroking his arm having no idea whether or not he knew I was there or got any comfort from my presence.
I can relive that even ten years later.
When my husband was dying I sat by his bed with my hand under the covers stroking his arm The carers told me to talk to him, saying hearing was the last sense to go but I couldn’t. All I could do was sit stroking his arm having no idea whether or not he knew I was there or got any comfort from my presence.
I can relive that even ten years later.
Your mum looks lovely @Muggers ......... peaceful and contented. So much can happen in a few months.
