I've just been over to see my mum in her care home. Went into the lounge which was quite hot, even with windows and French doors open. It seemed as though everyone was noisy and quarrelsome apart from my mum and a few others. Mum was really pleased to see me, and because it was so noisy, we moved out into the corridor area which was much cooler where we could sit and chat. When I left I got her some magazines and she stayed where she was, but she was tearful and seemed very unhappy. I suggested to one of the carers that she might like to sit in her room for a bit of peace and quiet, and they said she can do that and often does, but then comes back out to sit in the pandemonium again. She is supposed to have her supper there too, but doesn't eat so much on her own. When I suggested we went and sat in the cool, she said that there would be comments about it - clearly there wouldn't. I guess there are no answers, I just feel terrible that she was unhappy amid all the noise today. I'm told it's like that every afternoon.
She isn't unhappy all the time, and it's not always so noisy, that's the worst I've seen. In the corridors are pictures of the activities taking place, and there's mum joining in! The activities lady told me that she had got a book to show mum of the town mum grew up in, so I have nothing to complain about, she s well cared for and so hopefully it was just one of those days.
I'm not sure what can be done really, she wanders and so has to be in the secure part of the home. I wish with all my heart she didn't have to be there at all and I just feel very sad.
She isn't unhappy all the time, and it's not always so noisy, that's the worst I've seen. In the corridors are pictures of the activities taking place, and there's mum joining in! The activities lady told me that she had got a book to show mum of the town mum grew up in, so I have nothing to complain about, she s well cared for and so hopefully it was just one of those days.
I'm not sure what can be done really, she wanders and so has to be in the secure part of the home. I wish with all my heart she didn't have to be there at all and I just feel very sad.