My mum began her dementia journey nearly 10 years ago when 78 . She did alright for ages, living independently for many years and then when she reached 80 I had to start giving her more support.
Until aged 84 it was necessary to have her live in a care home for her own safety.
She never settled, was always aggressive then become doubly incontinent and combined with the increased aggression triggered a dst meeting earlier this year.
As a result she had to go to a nh and also got chc funding for the first time.
She's in a good place and the staff ( several mental health nurses are in charge and what a difference that makes. I wish she'd gone there from the outset) have coped admirably and have managed to calm down the aggression to quite a degree.
Nearly two months ago staff went into her room one morning and she couldn't move her legs. They took her to hospital, x rayed her, nothing broken and thought it was just arthritic pain. Gradually they got her back on her feet again although not independently.
I saw her before we went away for our autumn break looking fit and well.
While away last week I got a phone call to say she had vomited blood. She has gone downhill ever since and has not eaten since last week although she continues to drink small sips. A blood test was taken and nothing conclusive was gleaned from this although a gp said it would not be in her best interests to treat her
I went to see her as soon as I got home ( was abroad) and she's very frail and lost a lot of weight.
We had a meeting yesterday and it was discussed about putting her on morphine and there's no coming back from that.
I asked for another doctors visit as I just didn't feel comfortable giving the go ahead myself so that will happen today.
I'm veering towards sad, numb and almost normal.
Don't know what else to say.
My lovely mum. Told her how much I loved her. Gave her permission to join my father and the rest of her family. Told that she'd been a fantastic mother.She kept looking at me but didn't seem to recognise me.
Just waiting now...
Until aged 84 it was necessary to have her live in a care home for her own safety.
She never settled, was always aggressive then become doubly incontinent and combined with the increased aggression triggered a dst meeting earlier this year.
As a result she had to go to a nh and also got chc funding for the first time.
She's in a good place and the staff ( several mental health nurses are in charge and what a difference that makes. I wish she'd gone there from the outset) have coped admirably and have managed to calm down the aggression to quite a degree.
Nearly two months ago staff went into her room one morning and she couldn't move her legs. They took her to hospital, x rayed her, nothing broken and thought it was just arthritic pain. Gradually they got her back on her feet again although not independently.
I saw her before we went away for our autumn break looking fit and well.
While away last week I got a phone call to say she had vomited blood. She has gone downhill ever since and has not eaten since last week although she continues to drink small sips. A blood test was taken and nothing conclusive was gleaned from this although a gp said it would not be in her best interests to treat her
I went to see her as soon as I got home ( was abroad) and she's very frail and lost a lot of weight.
We had a meeting yesterday and it was discussed about putting her on morphine and there's no coming back from that.
I asked for another doctors visit as I just didn't feel comfortable giving the go ahead myself so that will happen today.
I'm veering towards sad, numb and almost normal.
Don't know what else to say.
My lovely mum. Told her how much I loved her. Gave her permission to join my father and the rest of her family. Told that she'd been a fantastic mother.She kept looking at me but didn't seem to recognise me.
Just waiting now...