The end is near for my poor mum

Discussion in 'End of life care' started by BrianSausage, Feb 10, 2019.

  1. BrianSausage

    BrianSausage Registered User

    Nov 2, 2018
    24
    Well things have progressed so much in the last week.
    Mum has been in a coma like state for 8 days now. No fluid for 6 days and no food for 10 days.
    We were called in by the home on Friday as mum’s breathing had changed and they thought the end was near.
    It’s now Sunday, and I’ve only left her to go home and sleep. Other than that my brother and I have been at her side.
    Mum has very heavy breathing and a gurling in her throat.

    It’s so awful sitting here watching her struggle for breath, but she does not seem to be giving up.
    My poor mum. What an awful end to her life.
     
  2. Izzy

    Izzy Volunteer Moderator

    Aug 31, 2003
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    Such a difficult time for you @BrianSausage.

    Thinking of you and wishing you strength and wishing peace for your mum.
     
  3. KathrynAnne

    KathrynAnne Registered User

    Jun 6, 2018
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    Female
    South Yorkshire
    What a very sad time for you. I remember going through this with my Dad and not daring to leave his side as I wanted to be there for him. Wishing you strength and peace for your Mum xx
     
  4. LynneMcV

    LynneMcV Volunteer Moderator

    May 9, 2012
    3,175
    south-east London
    This is such a difficult stage. Thinking of you all.
     
  5. Cat27

    Cat27 Volunteer Moderator

    Feb 27, 2015
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    Such a difficult time for you. I wish you strength.
     
  6. garfield3

    garfield3 Registered User

    Jun 30, 2018
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    So sorry things are so hard for you. Such a difficult time. Sending you strength. Hope you mum has a peaceful passing in the end. Take care.
     
  7. Shedrech

    Shedrech Volunteer Moderator

    Dec 15, 2012
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    Yorkshire
    oh @BrianSausage so tough on you, and your poor mum
    my thoughts are with you
     
  8. AliceA

    AliceA Registered User

    May 27, 2016
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    So sorry for you all. Your mum is probably more peaceful than she sounds. It is a very difficult time for you all.
     
  9. YorkshireLass

    YorkshireLass Registered User

    Feb 15, 2017
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    Ilkley
    Sending love at this dreadful time xxxx
     
  10. BrianSausage

    BrianSausage Registered User

    Nov 2, 2018
    24
    My beautiful lovely mum feel asleep this afternoon.
    I’m heartbroken.
     
  11. Theresalwaystomorrow

    Theresalwaystomorrow Registered User

    Dec 23, 2017
    345
    Aww @BrianSausage im sending my condolences. Hope all was peaceful x
     
  12. Canadian Joanne

    Canadian Joanne Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 8, 2005
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    Toronto, Canada
    Even when we know it is coming, it still is such a shock. My condolences to you and your family.
     
  13. lis66

    lis66 Registered User

    Aug 7, 2015
    43
    So sorry for your loss Briansausage my heart goes out to you and your family xx
     
  14. KathrynAnne

    KathrynAnne Registered User

    Jun 6, 2018
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    Female
    South Yorkshire
    Thinking of you @BrianSausage and may your lovely Mum rest in peace xxx
     
  15. Izzy

    Izzy Volunteer Moderator

    Aug 31, 2003
    58,096
    Female
    Dundee
    I'm sorry to read your sad news. Sending my condolences and wishing you strength for the days to come.
     
  16. Linbrusco

    Linbrusco Registered User

    Mar 4, 2013
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    Auckland...... New Zealand
    So very sorry to read of your Mum.
    My heartfelt condolences.
     
  17. LynneMcV

    LynneMcV Volunteer Moderator

    May 9, 2012
    3,175
    south-east London
    My sincere condolences. Thinking of you and wishing you strength at this heart-breaking time.
     
  18. Kikki21

    Kikki21 Registered User

    Feb 27, 2016
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    So sorry to read this @BrianSausage but your lovely mum is at peace now. She sounds like she was an amazing fighter though xx
     
  19. Shedrech

    Shedrech Volunteer Moderator

    Dec 15, 2012
    6,929
    Yorkshire
    sad news @BrianSausage
    your mum is now at rest
    and I hope there's peace of mind for you in knowing you have stood by her all this time
    be good to yourself
     
  20. BrianSausage

    BrianSausage Registered User

    Nov 2, 2018
    24
    Thank you for all your kind messages.
    I didn’t think the grief would hit me the way it has. I’m devastated.
    I know my beautiful mum is at peace now, free of this awful disease, and I am sure this will bring me comfort in the months to come.
    It’s just so raw at the moment x
     

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