I am sat here in tears and just about to go and get the train to my sisters house so that we can hopefully get mum out of her home into a care home. .She is in Birmingham and and I'm in Notts and she is coming nearer to me. heaven knows if she will get in the car let along stay somewhere strange.....I keep dreaming of mum hammering on doors I havent slept properly in weeks. We have looked at many homes and feel this is the right place for her but it feels worse than when I took my children to nurseries, feel its the finality of it all. will update you later how the day has gone.....you seem a lovely lot and feel i will need to ask you loads of questions in the coming months.