A number of things have happened recently that have worried me.
Dad has mixed dementia and lives in a care home. Two months ago he started taking 5g mamentine per day and to me he seems to have declined quite significantly since he started the medication. His scant speech has almost disappeared, he struggles to walk, is sometimes incontinent and is bewildered most of the time. Of course it could just be progression of the disease and nothing to do with the medication.
Anyway, last week for first time EVER I felt uncomfortable being alone with him. He kept trying to make me sit on the bed in his room and then walking over to join me... slowly, using his frame... pointing and getting upset when I moved. It doesn't help that he can't communicate. It was only a minor thing, but because he sometimes mixes me up with mum (who died 14 years ago) it really bothered me.
Today we sat in the lounge, and another resident told me that she and dad are married and that like any married couple they were having a few ups and downs. She was very serious about it. When she left the room dad said her name (it was just about recognisable), so I asked if she talked to him? *nod* Does she tell you about her life? *nod* He didn't seem distressed, but it's hard to tell. Before I left to go home, dad started getting upset, wanting me to stay and sit next to him. This doesn't usually happen. The care manager stepped in and sat with him for a while.
I spoke to the manager about it and the staff are all aware that the other resident has now fixated on dad. They are closely monitoring it.
So I guess I'm wondering if the different behaviours might be linked, if the new medication might be involved, if dad might be worrying about the other resident or (unbeknownst to us) reciprocating in some way and if it might be a phase that will pass? To be honest, I'm starting to feel out of my depth now.
Sorry for the long post! I've been reading other experiences on here and know this might seem insignificant compared to some. But if anything inappropriate did happen, in any capacity, I'd find it very difficult to deal with and would hate for dad to be suffering in any way without being able to express himself.
Dad has mixed dementia and lives in a care home. Two months ago he started taking 5g mamentine per day and to me he seems to have declined quite significantly since he started the medication. His scant speech has almost disappeared, he struggles to walk, is sometimes incontinent and is bewildered most of the time. Of course it could just be progression of the disease and nothing to do with the medication.
Anyway, last week for first time EVER I felt uncomfortable being alone with him. He kept trying to make me sit on the bed in his room and then walking over to join me... slowly, using his frame... pointing and getting upset when I moved. It doesn't help that he can't communicate. It was only a minor thing, but because he sometimes mixes me up with mum (who died 14 years ago) it really bothered me.
Today we sat in the lounge, and another resident told me that she and dad are married and that like any married couple they were having a few ups and downs. She was very serious about it. When she left the room dad said her name (it was just about recognisable), so I asked if she talked to him? *nod* Does she tell you about her life? *nod* He didn't seem distressed, but it's hard to tell. Before I left to go home, dad started getting upset, wanting me to stay and sit next to him. This doesn't usually happen. The care manager stepped in and sat with him for a while.
I spoke to the manager about it and the staff are all aware that the other resident has now fixated on dad. They are closely monitoring it.
So I guess I'm wondering if the different behaviours might be linked, if the new medication might be involved, if dad might be worrying about the other resident or (unbeknownst to us) reciprocating in some way and if it might be a phase that will pass? To be honest, I'm starting to feel out of my depth now.
Sorry for the long post! I've been reading other experiences on here and know this might seem insignificant compared to some. But if anything inappropriate did happen, in any capacity, I'd find it very difficult to deal with and would hate for dad to be suffering in any way without being able to express himself.