It's about 6 weeks since that awful day when mum was sectioned after battling with her for over 3years. It was an horrendous experience which has left me with so much guilt even though I know it had to happen for all of our sakes. We were advised not,to see her for the first couple of weeks, which was really hard, to go from caring all day, every day, I was feeling list and didn't know what to do with myself, how silly is that?. I don't know what I was expecting, I thought once in the capable hands of the professionals she would improve a bit, or be a bit more under control, Sadly not to be, even the staff have told us they find mum 'challenging' and how on earth did we cope. They have found that she has psychotic dementia, with frontal lobe, which does explain all the aggression. I ask myself how did we cope every day, but you do don't you hoping the next day will be better but it doesn't happen. It's the guilt I'm finding hard to cope with, my brain tells me it was the right thing to do, but my heart is in shreds seeing it happen, and after each visit when she constantly tells me ' it's all your fault, you put me in here', I know she doesn't mean it but it still hurts. She is refusing drugs to help with the psychosis so nothing much has changed. At the moment no care home will take her, so it's another vicious circle, no drugs, no home but mum doesn't understand she is her own worst enemy, she still believes there's nothing wrong with her. At today's visit I was asked to perhaps cut visits shorter to see if that helps. There's no right or wrong way to do this it's another learning curve that even the professionals struggle with dementia patients, so what chance did we have? This forum has so helped me, being able to just put things into words does relieve the guilt for a while, or if it helps someone else who may be going through the same.