Thank You all for your support during Tony s last few days.Tony died this morning at 9.20 just 1 hour after I posted on here saying how alone I felt.He died with me hugging him giving him a kiss and telling him we would all be OK.He has not been responsive for days and I am so glad that he died peacefully,I know he would not want me to dwell on the last 6 months but to remember all the good times.As my mother said he is not imprisoned by his illness any more but out and about somewhere like he used to be.I can not bring myself to strip his bed somehow the thought of seeing a bare mattress will make it all real.On Monday I will ring and arrange collection of the hospital bed,hoist and the all singing/dancing chair we had delivered Christmas Eve and perhaps then I will be able to remember my Tony who taught me how to hold my head up and have faith in myself.Thank you Tony for been my husband.
Thank You all for your support
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Oh Diane I am so sorry to read your news. As you say Tony is now at peace and pain free but I know you will be hurting badly. I'm so glad you were together and that hug will be so important to you in the days to come.
Sending you my heartfelt sympathy and my condolences. Wishing you strength.
Sending you my heartfelt sympathy and my condolences. Wishing you strength.
Oh Diane. I'm so very sorry but glad that your Tony is at peace. Remember that cuddle and how you gave him 'permission' to pass. You couldn't have done any more. Actually, you have been amazing through all Tony's last days-and longer.
Take care of yourself sweetheart.
We will always be here for you if you need any help or just a 'natter'
Love
Lyn T XX
Take care of yourself sweetheart.
We will always be here for you if you need any help or just a 'natter'
Love
Lyn T XX
I am so very sorry that you have lost your husband.
I know he is now out of pain and his suffering is over but it still hurts, dreadfully.
My deepest symapthy to you. x
I know he is now out of pain and his suffering is over but it still hurts, dreadfully.
My deepest symapthy to you. x
I'm very sorry, Diane. Your mother is right, Tony is now free of his illness. Soon your memories of him when he was well will all come back.
So sorry for your loss, as others have said you have been amazing through this, take care of yourself xx
Ange
Ange
So sorry for the loss of your dear husband. You had such a strong marriage you will miss him dreadfully.
I do hope you have been able to get some sleep since his passing. Wishing you strength for the difficult times ahead.
I do hope you have been able to get some sleep since his passing. Wishing you strength for the difficult times ahead.
Just checking to see if you managed a bit of sleep last night. No need to answer if you don't want to.
Love
Lyn T XX
Love
Lyn T XX
What a wonderful passing to be held in your arms, Diane. My loving thoughts and support for you. X Shelagh 
Hi Diane
So sorry to read your sad, sad news. My thoughts are with you and I send my deepest sympathies to you.
I'm so happy for you that you were there right up to the end and was able to give your beloved Tony a beautiful goodbye hug. This will, i'm sure console you in the times to come.
Take care xx
So sorry to read your sad, sad news. My thoughts are with you and I send my deepest sympathies to you.
I'm so happy for you that you were there right up to the end and was able to give your beloved Tony a beautiful goodbye hug. This will, i'm sure console you in the times to come.
Take care xx
thank you all.
Not much sleep sat up till 2.00 and then thought go to bed. I think I have got so used to sleeping on the settee and listening for Tony because somehow the bedroom just seemed wrong.I found I just kept waking up listening for him.When I woke up at 6.00 my first thought was I needed to give him a shave because I hadn't done it Saturday.Then I felt like a sledgehammer had hit me when I remembered.Why is it that people feel the need to tell me it was expected as if some how it makes things easier.Tomorrow I can at least keep busy trying to sort things out we have already been warned by the funeral director that we will probably be looking at a 3 week delay for the funeral.
Not much sleep sat up till 2.00 and then thought go to bed. I think I have got so used to sleeping on the settee and listening for Tony because somehow the bedroom just seemed wrong.I found I just kept waking up listening for him.When I woke up at 6.00 my first thought was I needed to give him a shave because I hadn't done it Saturday.Then I felt like a sledgehammer had hit me when I remembered.Why is it that people feel the need to tell me it was expected as if some how it makes things easier.Tomorrow I can at least keep busy trying to sort things out we have already been warned by the funeral director that we will probably be looking at a 3 week delay for the funeral.
Diane,
Nothing said makes it any easier...... people will also say it will get easier with time, time's a great healer etc etc etc........ I'm hearing this 5 months after losing my beautiful Mum, and it's falling on deaf ears i'm afraid. And then there are the folk that don't bother to keep in touch, the phone stops ringing......
Just take your time with everything and take care of YOU xx
Nothing said makes it any easier...... people will also say it will get easier with time, time's a great healer etc etc etc........ I'm hearing this 5 months after losing my beautiful Mum, and it's falling on deaf ears i'm afraid. And then there are the folk that don't bother to keep in touch, the phone stops ringing......
Just take your time with everything and take care of YOU xx
