I haven't posted on here for a long time but I log in every day and read all the threads.
My lovely mum has been in an EMI Nursing Home for nearly a year now. She is totally reliant on the nursing staff to do everything for her.
She is very confused, doesn't remember what happened five minutes ago, although she has always remembered who I am.
The thing I find the hardest to deal with is that all the time I am with her she begs me to take her home with me
I cannot distract her in anyway, I have tried lying, which I hate doing. I explain, in simple terms why she is where she is but she thinks she can do things for herself and doesn't need a lot of help. She then says I don't love or want her anymore which is heartbreaking.
Does anyone have any hints that have worked for them in the same situation.
I suffer with severe clinical depression and am really struggling to cope with the situation. I have to force myself to go and see mum at the moment because every visit ends with both of us in tears.
My dad died in a Nursing Home nearly seven years ago and he used to beg me to help him to die and this is bringing it all back again.
Thank you for letting me get some of this off my chest.
My best wished to everyone on this wonderful site.
Sheila
My lovely mum has been in an EMI Nursing Home for nearly a year now. She is totally reliant on the nursing staff to do everything for her.
She is very confused, doesn't remember what happened five minutes ago, although she has always remembered who I am.
The thing I find the hardest to deal with is that all the time I am with her she begs me to take her home with me
I cannot distract her in anyway, I have tried lying, which I hate doing. I explain, in simple terms why she is where she is but she thinks she can do things for herself and doesn't need a lot of help. She then says I don't love or want her anymore which is heartbreaking.
Does anyone have any hints that have worked for them in the same situation.
I suffer with severe clinical depression and am really struggling to cope with the situation. I have to force myself to go and see mum at the moment because every visit ends with both of us in tears.
My dad died in a Nursing Home nearly seven years ago and he used to beg me to help him to die and this is bringing it all back again.
Thank you for letting me get some of this off my chest.
My best wished to everyone on this wonderful site.
Sheila