Symapthy neede Hi BeckyJan Thanks for your ideas. I will check things out. Until now I have simply tried to get along with the help of friends - and the idea that I have always been able to cope with whatever life threw at me, so I would just have to get on with it. I was just worried that my reactions were way out of line with the size of the "offence" my poor husband was committing - and when I saw your post it was such a relief to know other people find relatively small things extremely irritating as well. Thank you for giving me the courage to join this site - so at least I can get some of this out of my system.