I don't know if other people can identify with this ........ but I've found that since dad died a couple of months or so ago, there's not only the huge amount of emotional stuff to cope with ......... but also an unbelievable amount of practical stuff.
And it all comes at a time when I feel least able to deal with it. He'd gone into a nursing home about 4 months ago, so i'd already started clearing his house out (been there over 30 years and never thrown anything away ) and I'd got EPA so I was doing a lot of the financial stuff for him. But sorting out probate and getting the house on the market, and letting everyone know that he's died and cancelling stuff and paying outstanding bills and and and ..................
............. It feels a bit like it will never end. And the response of different institutions has been so variable. His bank (and to be fair, he'd probably banked with them for over 60 years) has been wonderful ........ caring, supportive, helpful. His water supplier has just threatened to take me to court for an unpaid water bill of £20ish ..... just because I was waiting for probate to come through so i could pay it out of dad's account rather than get my money muddled up with it
I can just about believe that the day will come when it's all sorted and finished ..... and all I have to deal with is the emotions. But until then ..................
And it all comes at a time when I feel least able to deal with it. He'd gone into a nursing home about 4 months ago, so i'd already started clearing his house out (been there over 30 years and never thrown anything away ) and I'd got EPA so I was doing a lot of the financial stuff for him. But sorting out probate and getting the house on the market, and letting everyone know that he's died and cancelling stuff and paying outstanding bills and and and ..................
............. It feels a bit like it will never end. And the response of different institutions has been so variable. His bank (and to be fair, he'd probably banked with them for over 60 years) has been wonderful ........ caring, supportive, helpful. His water supplier has just threatened to take me to court for an unpaid water bill of £20ish ..... just because I was waiting for probate to come through so i could pay it out of dad's account rather than get my money muddled up with it
I can just about believe that the day will come when it's all sorted and finished ..... and all I have to deal with is the emotions. But until then ..................