Hi. I just need to let off some steam. We have a number of small jobs which need doing in the house and are lucky enough to have found someone who can do them all. He's working through some of them as I write. Mum was aware we needed the jobs doing and she was pleased he was able to do the jobs quickly, but now she is so stressed. She cannot remember we needed anything done, she is unhappy that "he" is in the house and she wants him gone. Sadly the jobs need to be done so calling a halt isn't really an option. To add to this she is so confused, probably because she's stressed, she thinks we have been moving from house to house regularly (the reality is one move in 50 or so years) and that she has been selling lots of houses aside from those she thinks we lived in. I know, or at least hope this is a temporary thing, but I'm at my wits end trying to keep her calm. Unfortunately there is no where she could go whilst we get the jobs done. Family are pretty near invisible and she won't go to a friend for a few hours, it's just not what she does. She does not go to daycare and wouldn't because she hasn't really accepted she has any memory problems. The other day I calculated I normally get 4 hours free a week (2 slots of 2 hours at church if she will go), plus the occasional coffee out with a friend every few weeks. That equates to less than half an hour free per day. I just think its no wonder I'm not coping as I should, but what can be done when mum won't cooperate with extra activities like daycare. She is very confused, but not so confused that she cannot make up her own mind. I know I can't push her into things she doesn't want to do so we are at stalemate.