Hello Grouse
I suppose I know there is nothing I can do that will bring my mum back, I miss her very much all the time, you don't stop loving someone just because they are gone, but she is and over time and as each day without her goes on I think you begin to adjust to your life without your mum. I still do have a terrible emptiness, whether this will ever go away only time will tell. I still have "chats" with my mum and always feel she is close to me. I look at photo's of her and stroke her face (in the photo I mean) I do have some days when I feel a longing to be able to hold her hand or tell her I love her, but I only have the photo of her so I say it to that, sounds daft but I don't know what else to do. How can I fill the void of losing my mum, I can't, the void will always be there, I know that, you only have one mum and I loved her very deeply, she can't be replaced, and in time you accept this because there is no other choice.
Your'e right, the emptiness does "kill" you and time is the only thing we have to help us. I have been without my mum four years, I don't feel the same intense pain as when she first died, the pain is still there inside me and may always be, it is just not as intense. I know how you feel but as I have said to Carabosse your mum dying is major trauma in your life, try and take each day as it comes, I know from my own experience there will be many bad days ahead but this will not last forever.
I still have some of my mum's clothes, I can't take them to the charity shop, I've tried but I just take them all out of the box, give them a "cuddle" and put them back in the box again!
I wish I could wave a magic wand and make you feel better but only time will do this for you.
Thinking of you
Lexy
P.S Please don't apologise, you can "butt in" as you put it if you feel the need
I suppose I know there is nothing I can do that will bring my mum back, I miss her very much all the time, you don't stop loving someone just because they are gone, but she is and over time and as each day without her goes on I think you begin to adjust to your life without your mum. I still do have a terrible emptiness, whether this will ever go away only time will tell. I still have "chats" with my mum and always feel she is close to me. I look at photo's of her and stroke her face (in the photo I mean) I do have some days when I feel a longing to be able to hold her hand or tell her I love her, but I only have the photo of her so I say it to that, sounds daft but I don't know what else to do. How can I fill the void of losing my mum, I can't, the void will always be there, I know that, you only have one mum and I loved her very deeply, she can't be replaced, and in time you accept this because there is no other choice.
Your'e right, the emptiness does "kill" you and time is the only thing we have to help us. I have been without my mum four years, I don't feel the same intense pain as when she first died, the pain is still there inside me and may always be, it is just not as intense. I know how you feel but as I have said to Carabosse your mum dying is major trauma in your life, try and take each day as it comes, I know from my own experience there will be many bad days ahead but this will not last forever.
I still have some of my mum's clothes, I can't take them to the charity shop, I've tried but I just take them all out of the box, give them a "cuddle" and put them back in the box again!
I wish I could wave a magic wand and make you feel better but only time will do this for you.
Thinking of you
Lexy
P.S Please don't apologise, you can "butt in" as you put it if you feel the need
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