I have had a bit of a rollercoaster the last 2 months..
I posted that my father passed away in Jan following a massive stroke, then 1 week later mum (advanced vas dem) fell while I was helping her off the loo. She was taken into hospital and has been in since, now about 6 weeks.
During that time mum has gone from being cheerful and responsive to withdrawn and totally unable to speak. She now no longer looks at me. The worst decline came just over a week ago when I got a call from a nurse saying that mum was unresponsive and possibly approaching end of life. I rushed in to find that she had 'woken' but was clearly in a lot of pain so after speaking with the doctor he prescribed mum morphine patches. I was told mum had suffered another mini-stroke or TIA but since then she has been mute and extremely withdrawn.
I am desperate for mum to come back home, but the package of care can't start until 24th March and the hospital need mum's bed so they have said they're going to move her to a NH for the interim period!
I have made my feelings clear that I don't want her moved until she comes home, but the Ward Manager admitted that they're desperate for the bed.
It's heartbreaking as I feel mum has the right to die comfortably and at home, and I'm massively worried now that, if moved, she might decline further and possibly not even make it home.
I don't know if mum can feel depression, but that is how she looks now, up until she went went into hospital I wouldn't have said she was suffering, but now I'm not so sure.
Sounds awful I know, but I hope she doesn't have to go through much more of this.... :`(
I posted that my father passed away in Jan following a massive stroke, then 1 week later mum (advanced vas dem) fell while I was helping her off the loo. She was taken into hospital and has been in since, now about 6 weeks.
During that time mum has gone from being cheerful and responsive to withdrawn and totally unable to speak. She now no longer looks at me. The worst decline came just over a week ago when I got a call from a nurse saying that mum was unresponsive and possibly approaching end of life. I rushed in to find that she had 'woken' but was clearly in a lot of pain so after speaking with the doctor he prescribed mum morphine patches. I was told mum had suffered another mini-stroke or TIA but since then she has been mute and extremely withdrawn.
I am desperate for mum to come back home, but the package of care can't start until 24th March and the hospital need mum's bed so they have said they're going to move her to a NH for the interim period!
I have made my feelings clear that I don't want her moved until she comes home, but the Ward Manager admitted that they're desperate for the bed.
It's heartbreaking as I feel mum has the right to die comfortably and at home, and I'm massively worried now that, if moved, she might decline further and possibly not even make it home.
I don't know if mum can feel depression, but that is how she looks now, up until she went went into hospital I wouldn't have said she was suffering, but now I'm not so sure.
Sounds awful I know, but I hope she doesn't have to go through much more of this.... :`(