Finally, after weeks of hell, (on top of previous 3 years of incessant demands, needs, issues etc) get to see Mum's GP. despite demonstrating every dementia symptom, dozens of times over with progression to different stages; me, Dad and sister told by her GP that he is sure her symptoms are just extreme anxiety, 'the more ragged bits of her personality showing' (vile, obscene, paranoid, hateful, spiteful then like an old lady on deaths door) coupled to her 'behavioural and social' issues. Because she is choosing not to eat for best part of 3 weeks and then can be motivated to 'perform' for him, she is demonstrating competence. His advice, back off, leave her and don't pander to her as we are making it worse and even though she doesn't take her meds or feed herself, drives (!), can't make more than a cup of tea, can't remember within 20 mins that her daughter just spent two hours with her, she is competent. We are too close to her .... Forget that Dad is in pieces looking after her and aged 81, it is killing him... Basically told us we are all wrong. So sorry to all you lovely people who have been supporting me and the family I love but I evidently should not be on here because my Mother is just 'upset' and is probably acting some of it out. Powerless to protect, helpless to do anything and now feel totally paralysed and shut down. Sorry, thank you for listening and all your advice but apparently she is just anxious and a mean ........ Rant over ..... Exhausted with caring