I have posted a couple of times about my 87 year old parents. Mam has undiagnosed advanced dementia, both of them refusing any medical intervention. She has had one gp home visit, instigated by me behind their backs but now refuse to have any more visits. Blood tests revealed B12 deficiency but she will not entertain any treatment.
Anyway, I rang them 30 mins ago, dad answered and handed me straight over to mam. Bit chit chat (struggle) as usual then I ask if it's ok if we go over tomorrow. No she says cos she won't be there, she's leaving (this is common place, my dad gets the brunt of all her aggression and accusations ). Then she hangs up!!!!
Question is, what do I do? Even at this late stage of her dementia my dad will not go against her. Do I try to ring back and aggrivate things further, can't just turn tomorrow cos 1. it's a 2 hour round trip on public transport and 2. it will just be me and my 10 year old who gets scared when Gran is being "weird". Pointless rinigng gp cos he won't be allowed access.
Want to support my dad but can't cos he won't go against her and he shuts us out. I find it heartbreaking that he won't get help and to be honest I would love to run away from the whole situation
Anyway, I rang them 30 mins ago, dad answered and handed me straight over to mam. Bit chit chat (struggle) as usual then I ask if it's ok if we go over tomorrow. No she says cos she won't be there, she's leaving (this is common place, my dad gets the brunt of all her aggression and accusations ). Then she hangs up!!!!
Question is, what do I do? Even at this late stage of her dementia my dad will not go against her. Do I try to ring back and aggrivate things further, can't just turn tomorrow cos 1. it's a 2 hour round trip on public transport and 2. it will just be me and my 10 year old who gets scared when Gran is being "weird". Pointless rinigng gp cos he won't be allowed access.
Want to support my dad but can't cos he won't go against her and he shuts us out. I find it heartbreaking that he won't get help and to be honest I would love to run away from the whole situation