Hi guys,
Thanks for your support. The last thing I posted was my dad had assaulted my mum, I went to work and poured it all out to my Sargeant who was great, arresting dad wouldn't have got us anywhere as he wouldn't be fit for interview etc. I phoned the hospital and social worker ( who now suddenly appears to be on our side ) the following morning dad fell out of bed , paramedics put him back, burnt the toast, refused to be washed etc. a psychiatric nurse visited that afternoon with the social worker and asked him why he assaulted his wife, he denied it saying he'd never hit a woman. They asked him why he didn't wait for carer for breakfast, I can do it myself I don't need help. His behaviour was in front of them and I think they panicked! The nurse said to him he had 3 choices a) go voluntarily back to the hospital b) go into respite c) have the doctors come out with a view of forcing him to the hospital . Dad replied the doctors, as they'll understand it's all mums fault etc etc. They left then at 22.00 that night mum had a phone call from a night worker social service lady saying she was coming round at 23.00 with two doctors! They came round and sectioned him again and he willingly went! The social worker has found dad a bed in a care home and the best interest meeting is 2moro, she says she needs to convince the doctor he can't come home and go from there. So it's all been happening last few days but thought you should read what can happen from a bad situation.
My question is if dad goes in to a home obviously he stops paying the bills ( rightly so ) my mum can't afford it if I'm not there... Is this right that mum gets nothing from dads pension etc and is left to fend for herself? I'm now tied living with her at home to pay the bills. Dad has a state pension and a private pension, including care allowance... My mum has a state pension..
Thanks everyone for your concern it really helps to hear people's thoughts and knowledge
Jenna
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