RedLou
Registered User
It also depends on the stage of life of the carer and the relationship to the one needing care. If it's a spouse you've taken a 'better or worse' vow that you may find a quiet satisfaction in fulfilling. If it's a parent, who's had their life, and you have commitments to others, be they partners or children, then who do you 'neglect' and who do you put first? And all too often the one neglected is the carer.
In short, no one automatically comes 'first.' It all depends on the circumstances. I am deeply discomforted if the OP is made to feel guilty in her own thread. The one thing I feel absolutely fanatically about in this awful experience of dementia is that NO guilt should be felt by any carer, and TP should be a safe haven from the infliction or perpetration of it.
In short, no one automatically comes 'first.' It all depends on the circumstances. I am deeply discomforted if the OP is made to feel guilty in her own thread. The one thing I feel absolutely fanatically about in this awful experience of dementia is that NO guilt should be felt by any carer, and TP should be a safe haven from the infliction or perpetration of it.