Well said, Agzy. And your posts also are part of this network of support and consolation.
Wow that’s so positive. Music is so very special.Amazing the effect of music has. Pauline has no idea who ‘The Eagles’ are nor their music but I like them and, as the “Ultimate Eagles” were appearing at our local theatre, I booked us tickets. I did so expecting her to want to leave early and the complaints prior to arrival did not bode well but boy did she enjoy herself! Foot tapping, mouthing words trying to sing along and full of praise at the interval. The only upset was when a lady behind us sneezed and Pauline took great offence as her coat, “was covered in slime” So into the washing machine it went as soon as we got home. An amazing night all round and an eye opener too ❤️.
Thank you @sdmhred, I like the idea of a trial run as to be honest my health issues are of some concern looking forward and so a valid point As is “seize the day!”Oh @Agzy
I think many abandon their dreams 😢 but others fight and hold their resolve. I remember a lady here last year who booked to go to Greece and just told the LA she was going and they needed to sort care….which they did!
I think for you it depends on where you draw that line. You could tell her sons that you will be away for these dates and alternative care needs arranging……also the local authority….they legally cannot just leave Pauline, they will do something. You are overdue and entitled to a holiday. You will need to be firm, no negotiating, you’re off!
As you’ve also shared this could well be needed in an emergency for your own health anyway……so to have a practice run is no bad thing.
My motto in life is ‘no regrets’ for each of us that will look differently……but having had dementia in life my other motto is now Seize the Day!
we stand with you whatever decision you make!
Thank you xAgzy...I think you deserve a holiday....go for it and enjoy it
Pin him down for dates.Or alternatively book the dates that suit you and tell him you’re goingAs family and freinds share their holiday plans on social media my wanderlust instincts have started and I know that if I am to ever see my Canadian cousins again it really should be this year and during school holiday time so my daughter can travel with me. The problem is - respite care! I know Pauline will refuse and her sons cannot/will not be able or willing to provide sufficient care at home for her so a major quandary for me. Late August or early September are my prefered months but her eldest has advised he will be away on holiday himself ‘around about then.’ How do others in similar circumstances manage I wonder?