My mum moved into my home recently so I've given up work and am her full time carer with help from my partner. Everything had been going really well until tonight and I'm afraid to say I got extremely upset. Mum hasn't formerly been diagnosed as yet but all the signs of early stages of dementia are sadly there. I've totally dedicated myself to my mums care and haven't had any time out and have given up my whole life, friends activities etc. I'm happy to do that to care for my mum but sometimes its really difficult as I cant even leave her in front of the tv or with music on for even half an hour and she wants me to be with her all the time.
My partner has to walk the dogs now and I miss doing that and I cant even go out in the garden to hang washing out or use my computer or make phone calls. Today we went out for a picnic and had a lovely time and I try to take her out most days however tonight my neighbour popped round for a chat and I was outside in the front garden chatting for 20 minutes whilst mum was inside. My partner took her some dessert and a coffee and she was watching tv. When I went back inside all hell broke lose and I was accused of neglecting her and that I shouldn't leave her and the rules were I should be with her all the time!!
I dont know where all this came from but I was really upset and tried to reason with her but it all ended by her saying she wanted to go and live elsewhere and I'm not looking after her properly. I'm just so upset and this is the first time anything has happened like this and I'm feeling so hurt. I guess I've got more to come of this but am new to this forum and just wondered how people cope? Xx
My partner has to walk the dogs now and I miss doing that and I cant even go out in the garden to hang washing out or use my computer or make phone calls. Today we went out for a picnic and had a lovely time and I try to take her out most days however tonight my neighbour popped round for a chat and I was outside in the front garden chatting for 20 minutes whilst mum was inside. My partner took her some dessert and a coffee and she was watching tv. When I went back inside all hell broke lose and I was accused of neglecting her and that I shouldn't leave her and the rules were I should be with her all the time!!
I dont know where all this came from but I was really upset and tried to reason with her but it all ended by her saying she wanted to go and live elsewhere and I'm not looking after her properly. I'm just so upset and this is the first time anything has happened like this and I'm feeling so hurt. I guess I've got more to come of this but am new to this forum and just wondered how people cope? Xx