Good morning everyone. Really need to just write and get stuff off my chest! Mum has been in a care home now for 7 weeks. I am still struggling so much with the guilt of this. My brother and I own her house so we are in a situation where we have to sell her house to pay the top up fees. He is older than me so is also going to use his proceeds for his retirement. He is now 69 and Mum is 93. I am finding it heartbreaking to go behind her back and start clearing out everything and then sell the house she has lived in for 60 years. I feel like my heart has been broken and I don't know how to recover. I have started counselling which is good.
The home seems good - had a few issues about visiting but hopefully this seems to be getting better. Mum thinks she is working there but has been agitated a bit about not getting paid for working there! She wants money and even cried this week about not getting paid. She has done really well and I'm so proud of her. She does say she wants to go home sometimes to pick up a few bits but in the main everyone is really nice so she seems settled some days.
Please help me - I keep thinking there must have been a way to keep her at home longer. She has Alzheimers and someone told me she is better going in to a home while she can still get familiar with the surroundings. I don't know. All I do know is I want the very best for her and I'm not sure she is getting what she would want.
My heart aches every day with the guilt.
Thanks for just letting me write this x
The home seems good - had a few issues about visiting but hopefully this seems to be getting better. Mum thinks she is working there but has been agitated a bit about not getting paid for working there! She wants money and even cried this week about not getting paid. She has done really well and I'm so proud of her. She does say she wants to go home sometimes to pick up a few bits but in the main everyone is really nice so she seems settled some days.
Please help me - I keep thinking there must have been a way to keep her at home longer. She has Alzheimers and someone told me she is better going in to a home while she can still get familiar with the surroundings. I don't know. All I do know is I want the very best for her and I'm not sure she is getting what she would want.
My heart aches every day with the guilt.
Thanks for just letting me write this x