Hi everyone, first time on here and feeling like I now need some advice. Mum (77) has vascular dementia, diagnosed 3 years. On top of that mum also has COPD. The last year has been very stressful. 18 months ago mum had no carers in place. My sis and me managed her care with electronic med dispenser and regular contact to remind her of things. To give you an idea how her dementia has progressed she currently has carers 3x daily for food, drink and meds, a door sensor which alerts me when she wanders at night, a vega gps watch to locate her when she goes missing, the gas cooker has been disconnected. Mum sometimes does not stay in for carers and regularly goes out without any money, meds, bus pass. Gets very confused at home. We do house work, washing etc. mums COPD has got considerably worse over last few months. Constantly on antibiotics and steroids. When she has an exacerbation of COPD her vascular dementia gets worse which makes sense with the lack of oxygen getting to her organs. Basically we put mum in respite for a month. Mum has now another exacerbation of COPD, not cleared and has been on antibiotics for 1 week which has been increased to 2. Her breathing is very tight, not very mobile. We asked mum to think about staying in the CH as she will have better care, security etc. she said she cannot fault the place. Mum still gets up in the night but is secure and safe instead of in danger on a dark street. Mum keeps changing her mind now, one day " I know I'm better here" next day " I want to go home" personally I don't think she can go home. How do I deal with this. I'm getting anxious how I can support her with her care if she keeps changing her mind. The CH is private, it's lovely. If she were to go home and be in danger I am concerned it would be taken out of my hands and she might end up somewhere awful. Any help or advice would be greatly appreciated x