Hi, I'm looking for some ideas and advice. My dad has Alzheimer's and is living in a care home. He is still fairly lucid a lot of the time and can have a good conversation and understand things, but also he a lot of short term memory loss, and some of his reasoning skills have gone and he can't always understand concepts. He doesn't entirely understand why he needs to be in a care home and sometimes resents it, and sometimes talks of plans to get out of there, get fit, and find a nice place to live by himself (that is not a care home).
Here's my dilemma: We have to sell his house to cover his care costs. Me and my sister are trying to decide whether we should tell him about this, and also whether or not it would be a good thing to take him to say goodbye to the house. We think there could be benefits of sharing this information with him - and would like to do it out of respect and honesty. But we are concerned that it might be a traumatic experience for him (and us!) and we don't know if it's in his best interest.
Advice, ideas and your experiences much appreciated.
Here's my dilemma: We have to sell his house to cover his care costs. Me and my sister are trying to decide whether we should tell him about this, and also whether or not it would be a good thing to take him to say goodbye to the house. We think there could be benefits of sharing this information with him - and would like to do it out of respect and honesty. But we are concerned that it might be a traumatic experience for him (and us!) and we don't know if it's in his best interest.
Advice, ideas and your experiences much appreciated.