Mum had a fall last week, not serious enough to warrant hospital admission, but she's been going downhill ever since. She's now doubly incontinent ( previously just the poo...), is eating and drinking very little and is too scared / demotivated to get up from her chair except to go to bed and get up. No way can she go to coffee in her sheltered housing, or anything similar.
On Saturday I found her not wearing her alarm button ( not that she pressed it when she fell) and on Sunday she was not only not wearing her glasses, she was unaware of the fact.
Life seems pretty grim for mum at the moment. She said yesterday that she just wants to lie down and die - and I can understand how she feels.
The GP is prescribing anti-depressants and feels I should get her into some sort of respite care. Her response is to absolutely refuse. She pummels her fists pathetically and kind of screeches "I don't want anything to change....NO, I'm not going anywhere!!!"
The question is, to what extent and when do I take the decision about respite care out of mum's hands??
Not helped by the fact that I haven't yet found a vacancy, so it's all a bit hypothetical. Am ringing adult services when I've posted this, to try to get funding....maybe even a place lol .
Any ideas out there would be gratefully received. thanks
Lindy xx
On Saturday I found her not wearing her alarm button ( not that she pressed it when she fell) and on Sunday she was not only not wearing her glasses, she was unaware of the fact.
Life seems pretty grim for mum at the moment. She said yesterday that she just wants to lie down and die - and I can understand how she feels.
The GP is prescribing anti-depressants and feels I should get her into some sort of respite care. Her response is to absolutely refuse. She pummels her fists pathetically and kind of screeches "I don't want anything to change....NO, I'm not going anywhere!!!"
The question is, to what extent and when do I take the decision about respite care out of mum's hands??
Not helped by the fact that I haven't yet found a vacancy, so it's all a bit hypothetical. Am ringing adult services when I've posted this, to try to get funding....maybe even a place lol .
Any ideas out there would be gratefully received. thanks
Lindy xx