Interested reading this. Our SS in Covid times told me only assessments that can be done would be over the phone... can't assess my OH ( with AD) without seeing him! And if I speak about him on the phone he listens to every word. So I was told just to wait till after lockdown. As for support? As we would be self- funding, I don't think we get offered anything. And OH doesn't want to pay anything for any carers so it is just me. We have no family. Am currently able to leave OH alone for max an hour - but it had to be a good day, and fearful this might not be the case for long. Am I being fobbed off? Should we get more?
@Pots and Pans I am in a similar position to you, we would be self funding. I am my Husband's sole Carer, he needs constant 24 hour care, I seldom get more that 2 hours sleep at a time, as he is in and out of bed 3/4 times in the night, so I end up having a nap in the afternoon, when he nods off and again in the evening. Problem is I can't get through everything which needs doing. He can't communicate and I don't feel he understands anything I say to him, even when I use his name to get his attention, he can't find his way around the house so I have to take him to the dining room for meals, which I have to cut up for him and put his knife and fork in his hands, he doesn't even seem to know when he needs to go to the toilet, he can't find the bathrooms or know what to do when he gets there. I can barely leave him in a room on his own to prepare our food. I have an online delivery every week and haven't had a walk for over 12 months now and for someone who has spent their retirement as a Volunteer Walk Leader with Walking for Health, it is hard to feel your fitness declining, both mental and physical.
When I asked the Doctor last year at my Husband's medicine review, for an assessment he said he didn't know what I was talking about, it was nothing to do with him, he only prescribed his medication, make sure it was suiting him and there was nothing else he could give him anyway. The Carers Association asked me what support I thought I needed, I said that I could do with someone to come in and take over from me for a couple of hours, she replied "We do not work miracles", While the Admiral Nurse, thought I was doing a great job and I was very strong so it was best to carry on as I was. AgeUK used to ring every 6 months but last call about 18 months ago she said they were having a restructure and she didn't know if she would have a job after that. I haven't heard anything since.
I try to carry on as best I can. I wish you well.