I'm not actually sure if my dad has received a letter but I did have a call from his care company asking about it but I said we were not going into to dad at the present time and she was working from home so may not have been up to date with everything. The lady asked as she said they needed to know as it was to do with whether extra precautions from carers were needed when visiting dad. I asked dad via a phone call but he's not sure as he usually doesn't bother with post anymore. Lady said she would check into it more and keep updated.
Sister was told not to go into dad to do his breakfast in the current situation no visiting and in fact was asked to remove his dog so she has now taken the dog to her home for foreseeable future.
I am unable to take dads dog as my own dog is epileptic and it would be chaos and stressful for my dog and ME for them to be together. Dad doesn't go out so in that respect hopefully he will be safe but obviously care visits 4 x daily with different carers is a worry.
Partner received a text saying he should stay in for 12 weeks but no letter other than the one that others have received just reiterating the need to stay in etc. Strangely I got the same text too but I think it was in error I'm 60 with no underlying issues that I know of apart from a borderline under-active thyroid.
Personally I would have liked the opportunity to have been able to register Partner so that shopping could be safer as if I get the virus I could pass to my partner but seems that 77 yrs, Parkinson's and heart stents not included as vulnerable person.
Although I have no direct contact with dad at the moment but call him daily I am taking dad his frozen meals over and some basic shopping. Dads Wiltshire meals are now delivered to my home weekly just to make sure they end up in the right place as dad wouldn't open his door or potentially put in freezer the carers schedule enables me to call ahead to check they are available to take in.
Getting a Online Order has been impossible I've made my head ache from staring at the computer and checking all day even after Midnight. I can't even get a click and collect but I'm told they are easier if you are lucky enough to catch the right release time which can vary. I may have no option other than to be brave and venture to the shops eventually perhaps my little corner shop rather than main supermarket.
Its very frustrating that my sister who has always online shopped as she doesn't drive neither does her husband has been offered a regular shop with Sainsburys once a week if needed but the company are not taking any new customers. Iv'e actually registered with three Supermarkets but all delivery's are fully booked for some time although impression is some slots may appear randomly hence my sore eyes and thumping head. I had got dad some extra tinned stuff before lock-down some fruit which he doesn't usually have but I couldn't envisage tackling shopping for his favourite trifle all the time given how manic the shops became. I naively didn't take on board how difficult or worrying shopping would be now and I'm frightened about going out unless I really have to.
My hands are now splitting with all the hand washing as Iv'e become absolutely obsessive and frightened that I'll get the virus and pass onto partner or dad although Iv'e washed and wiped down all the shopping too.
I took some stuff from my pre- lock-down shop to dad this week to make sure he doesn't run out of basics just yet but will need to replace some bits soon. My neighbour kindly left us 4 pints of fresh milk and some eggs last week on the doorstep as we had already exchanged mobile numbers. I decided to give the milk to dad on Friday as he probably prefers to long life but I took two cartons as well and dad didn't need any eggs.
I don't really want to impose on my neighbour or her husband although they did offer on this occasion and I hadn't been well but they have young children and its now obvious no one is immune or safe from the virus. If I can get an Online Order or have to shop I will try and return the favour.
Sister having been told via email that I was going to drop dad stuff off said she was placing a order purely for dads needs this week but her order had several cakes on it which dad really doesn't need yet and most likely would go out of date before eating as I had 4 boxes of Viennese Whirls dads favourite which would last dad about two weeks. I suggested perhaps it better she delayed her order as she had indicated it was being placed for dads needs not her own she even told me a slot was available to her the following week. I said dad was going to be ok this coming week with what I had sorted out for him as I was taking milk and other stuff Friday and had informed her of that only a couple of days earlier.
Sister appears to have gotten in a strop emailing me back saying she was cancelling the order altogether which I think is sensible but she wasn't placing a order the following week either
. I feel that sister is deliberately exerting pressure and making it more difficult for me regards getting shopping for dad simply because she's miffed. I believe there is a limit of 80 items per shop more than enough to help cater for dads needs plus her own household she lives within a short walking distance of his home. Sister could have placed a order for fresh milk for dad at end of this coming week and his trifle plus any other bits to top him up which I have done myself without the aid of a delivery service but now need to think about replacing.
Words fail me despite our difference towards each other I have told her prior to this week I hope we all get through this and that I genuinely did mean it but no such words from her.
I'm afraid I couldn't help myself and replied to her email telling her she was very fortunate indeed to be in a position to have been given the opportunity to get a shopping slot each week as I couldn't get one despite signing up to three supermarkets. I said I would do my best to get dad some stuff and would keep trying to get a delivery.
I think I would rather starve than ask her to get me any grocery's not that she has offered of course but she is in a very good position to get dads stuff. I will try and get dad the basics he needs myself so as to give her nothing to complain about its so bloody awful that even in these terrible times I have a sister like this.
Sorry I probably digressed from the whole post but I'm really stressed, I'm still awaiting news to see if my Vet has managed to get my little dogs epilepsy medication in as it has been delayed by over three weeks but fortunate that I had a spare bottle to open but really need to get more soon hoping its in on Tuesday she can't be without it.
Take care
