My car has broken down, I use my car for my son and his hobbies (ASD so obsessive) my mum and her hospital and doctor visits and for my work. Everything has gone wrong with it this year and it has cleaned out my savings. Mum wants to pay for the repair but as her registered PoA I can't take the money from her. (I haven't taken a penny for 20 years for caring for her, not a dime).
Previously my sister (invisible for 30 years) persuaded mum to take me to court to get the power of attorney taken from me to be given to her but failed when I told her she had committed domestic fraud and she could be prosecuted. If the CoP are involved she will be reported to the police. Mum doesn't understand any of this.
Poor Mum thinks that it is her money and she can give it to whom she wants (brother just helps himself, sickening). Now she is calling me thick and stupid because I won't accept the repair bill for my car. She is saying I am letting her down and doing wrong by my son as I can't take him where he wants to go.
But I am her PoA (though the bank don't recognise it right now long story), I can't take her money, I won't do that she only has a little which she needs for her own care.
She is angry with me again, she wants to give me her money and I won't take it, she would give me her entire life savings, clean out her account if that is what it takes. She wants to buy me a new car so I don't have the problems with the pile of rubbish I am currently driving. I have been refusing this offer for a few years now.
She doesn't understand that her £2k won't buy me a better car but someone elses heap of junk. She thinks it will get me a new (brand new) car.
I can't take it. Even without the laws in place my conscience wont let me take it. She needs it for herself. Her needs are ever changing, in the last 12 months she's needed a new tumble drier, cooker, microwave.
I know my sister and brother can't use the CoP to make a case against me because they have both financially abused her, they'd be in trouble. I refuse point blank to join in that financial abuse, I am so much better than that, I might be broke, but I don't financially abuse anyone, my pride and good name is priceless. So now my mum thinks I am thick and stupid and letting my son and her down.
She's really cross with me again because I haven't told her like I am saying it here but said "Mum that's really kind but I can't accept your lovely offer". Mum being cross is like 10 times the intensity of mum being cross predementia. She feels I have rejected her but there is no way I'll take her cash.
She is still cross and thinks I am stupid.
How the hell do you win with this disease?
Previously my sister (invisible for 30 years) persuaded mum to take me to court to get the power of attorney taken from me to be given to her but failed when I told her she had committed domestic fraud and she could be prosecuted. If the CoP are involved she will be reported to the police. Mum doesn't understand any of this.
Poor Mum thinks that it is her money and she can give it to whom she wants (brother just helps himself, sickening). Now she is calling me thick and stupid because I won't accept the repair bill for my car. She is saying I am letting her down and doing wrong by my son as I can't take him where he wants to go.
But I am her PoA (though the bank don't recognise it right now long story), I can't take her money, I won't do that she only has a little which she needs for her own care.
She is angry with me again, she wants to give me her money and I won't take it, she would give me her entire life savings, clean out her account if that is what it takes. She wants to buy me a new car so I don't have the problems with the pile of rubbish I am currently driving. I have been refusing this offer for a few years now.
She doesn't understand that her £2k won't buy me a better car but someone elses heap of junk. She thinks it will get me a new (brand new) car.
I can't take it. Even without the laws in place my conscience wont let me take it. She needs it for herself. Her needs are ever changing, in the last 12 months she's needed a new tumble drier, cooker, microwave.
I know my sister and brother can't use the CoP to make a case against me because they have both financially abused her, they'd be in trouble. I refuse point blank to join in that financial abuse, I am so much better than that, I might be broke, but I don't financially abuse anyone, my pride and good name is priceless. So now my mum thinks I am thick and stupid and letting my son and her down.
She's really cross with me again because I haven't told her like I am saying it here but said "Mum that's really kind but I can't accept your lovely offer". Mum being cross is like 10 times the intensity of mum being cross predementia. She feels I have rejected her but there is no way I'll take her cash.
She is still cross and thinks I am stupid.
How the hell do you win with this disease?