Hi,
My mother has dementia, her husband who had been caring for her has decided the time has come for her to go into care. A space became available in our chosen home and she was moved in a couple of weeks ago, after a week they moved her into a shared un-carpeted room because of incontinence over night.
I had my concerns about this, mum had been understandably agitated and disorientated moving in to the home and was spending much of her time just wandering around and expecting to leave when ever anyone visited. my family were unconcerned about the shared room as she didn't spend much time in her room anyway but I wondered whether as she settles in she will value a bit of personal space a bit more.
I put my concerns to the staff at the home who said not to worry as dementia patients start to value the company of others and feel like they have done something wrong if you start to isolate them -I'm wondering if this is true and acceptable or whether it's a convenient argument for them to get an extra bed filled. I would value anyone's experiences on how dementia affects a persons need for personal space.
I did speak to my mother about it but she wasn't really able to communicate her feelings and I suspect she doesn't really understand that this could be a permanent arrangement.
Thanks in advance for any thoughts/experiences.
Beanz
My mother has dementia, her husband who had been caring for her has decided the time has come for her to go into care. A space became available in our chosen home and she was moved in a couple of weeks ago, after a week they moved her into a shared un-carpeted room because of incontinence over night.
I had my concerns about this, mum had been understandably agitated and disorientated moving in to the home and was spending much of her time just wandering around and expecting to leave when ever anyone visited. my family were unconcerned about the shared room as she didn't spend much time in her room anyway but I wondered whether as she settles in she will value a bit of personal space a bit more.
I put my concerns to the staff at the home who said not to worry as dementia patients start to value the company of others and feel like they have done something wrong if you start to isolate them -I'm wondering if this is true and acceptable or whether it's a convenient argument for them to get an extra bed filled. I would value anyone's experiences on how dementia affects a persons need for personal space.
I did speak to my mother about it but she wasn't really able to communicate her feelings and I suspect she doesn't really understand that this could be a permanent arrangement.
Thanks in advance for any thoughts/experiences.
Beanz