90 year old MIL has been in CH for just over 2 months. She seems very settled and tells us every time we visit how wonderful the staff and the care is. However, she always asks about her home and keeps mentioning that she hopes we’re keeping an eye on things and that we must put the heating on when the weather gets colder etc etc.
It’s highly unlikely (and would be totally inappropriate) for her ever to return to her home now. She’s become even more support dependent and is generally progressively weaker each week. She no longer asks about when she going home which was her default response when she was in hospital and we try and avoid talking about it too much.
She’s very muddled about where her home is; 40 years ago she lived on the Isle of Wight and I think the way she talks, she still believes that this is the house she left to come into the CH.
We would rather she made the decision than us but it’s difficult to know how much reality she grasps. We tried to introduce the idea by suggesting that we cancelled her council tax DD as there was no point in her paying it whilst the house was empty but this didn’t seem to have rung any bells. Although we have POA neither of us feel comfortable doing it without her agreement. Are we being too sensitive and just do it?
It’s highly unlikely (and would be totally inappropriate) for her ever to return to her home now. She’s become even more support dependent and is generally progressively weaker each week. She no longer asks about when she going home which was her default response when she was in hospital and we try and avoid talking about it too much.
She’s very muddled about where her home is; 40 years ago she lived on the Isle of Wight and I think the way she talks, she still believes that this is the house she left to come into the CH.
We would rather she made the decision than us but it’s difficult to know how much reality she grasps. We tried to introduce the idea by suggesting that we cancelled her council tax DD as there was no point in her paying it whilst the house was empty but this didn’t seem to have rung any bells. Although we have POA neither of us feel comfortable doing it without her agreement. Are we being too sensitive and just do it?