My wife attended her second assessment today so CT scan done, natural shrinkage due to age, consultant asked her to do memory test despite my partner saying no first time around…today she agreed to do it. The nurse we got was quite pushy and a bit patronising so not a good start, my OH was struggling with the test more out of pressure than anything else so she asked for test to stop…..my OH keeps insisting she has no issues so I guess I have to accept what she’s saying and just go with what she thinks…..what a horrible day 😢
Hello
@wenrho , the testing may not have been as useless as you think - your wife's responses, or lack of, together with the CT scan will have told the doctors all they need to know,
My husband has mid/late stage Alzheimer's and recently had an assessment, which I had asked for because he needed a change of medication. He was calm, chatty (incoherently) and friendly toward the doctor, the total opposite of the way he behaves at home. When asked if he thought there were any problems, he said No, everything's OK. Which it definitely isn't.
I had already given the doctor a report of my own which detailed what really goes on at home so he knew the other side of the story. Hopefully someone has asked you about your concerns or you have been able to put your side forward? Either way, when the doctor's report came, it recommended the change of medication and various referrals .
It's quite usual for a person with dementia to present totally different sides of themselves to different people ( rather like a child who is fine with other people and saves the bad behaviour for the parents!) and to have little concept of what is happening to them.
The people dealing with dementia know what they are looking for and will have understood your wife's behaviour. In any future appointments, make sure you present your side of the story. Very best wishes for the future