Yes I agree that funding is unfair, but I also believe that mums money is hers, as is the house & everything in it
If she needs more care, she will pay, if it's a CH, the house will be sold to pay for it. Thems the rules
My parents worked hard, saved for their retirement & did without in order to do that. It is sad that dad didn't get to enjoy it, not going there, but mum can enjoy the same quality as pre diagnosis & I intend to do my utmost to keep her happy & settled
I too sold up & moved, gave up a "good" job & am unlikely to be in a position (or even capable) of doing that work again. My choice. No one put a gun to my head & made me do this
I've never counted on "my" inheritance. It's not my money. I didn't earn it, so I'm not spending it
I'd like to leave something to my sons, but that doesn't mean they are entitled to anything, it's just a wish from me
Mum worries about me being left with nothing, I joke that I'll be homeless, so hang on a while so I can make plans (no chance), but I've told her, the house is for her care, if she needs it
End of as far as I'm concerned