Hello, we have been having some distressing conversations around money with my mother which have now resulted in her suspecting her family members or "someone" is taking her money without permission.
I think the issue is a sense of lack of control in her own affairs. We have POA as she lives alone is no longer able to deal with money. She is unable to use a cash machine or deal with financial matters but obviously remembers that she used to. We get her cash every few days but she hides it. The familiar local branch of her bank is now a wine bar which is very confusing. If we take her to a cash machine or show a balance or statement she forgets, doesn't understand the balance or focuses on money leaving in a statement. She doesn't understand why she can't access or see her own money so she believes it's being taken from her. Her argument is logical as she knows she used to be able to do something that sadly she is no longer able to.
I suspect the issue is about not feeling in control, as she has also recently started having carers to help with meds and food, but it's predominantly being artificulated through money. Does anyone have advice on how to give the perception of still being in control and independent or as mum says being treated "normal" please?
I think the issue is a sense of lack of control in her own affairs. We have POA as she lives alone is no longer able to deal with money. She is unable to use a cash machine or deal with financial matters but obviously remembers that she used to. We get her cash every few days but she hides it. The familiar local branch of her bank is now a wine bar which is very confusing. If we take her to a cash machine or show a balance or statement she forgets, doesn't understand the balance or focuses on money leaving in a statement. She doesn't understand why she can't access or see her own money so she believes it's being taken from her. Her argument is logical as she knows she used to be able to do something that sadly she is no longer able to.
I suspect the issue is about not feeling in control, as she has also recently started having carers to help with meds and food, but it's predominantly being artificulated through money. Does anyone have advice on how to give the perception of still being in control and independent or as mum says being treated "normal" please?