I was hoping somebody may be able to offer me some advice concerning my Grandma. She has been in a home since July '04, and her dementia has deterioated rapidly since November. Literally over night, she went from being slightly confused and forgetful, to a paranoid and very frightened lady. We have never had a definate diagnosis as such concerning her dementia as she will not allow any tests to be done on her, getting quite agressive and angry if we approach her about it. Well in the last week or so, she has refused to be given any care by the carers or family. This including washing, changing her clothes, and more importantly she refuses to take her medication. The situation is as such now that the carers cannot force her to wash or change her clothes (she has been in them now day and night for over a week), because that is classed as abuse, and likewise if they leave her it is classed as neglect. Also they cannot force her to take her medication. So what is likely to happen now?? Is she likely to end up in an EMI home? Grandma has been under a specialist, who ordered a scan to be taken, however she refused to go to the hospital to have it done, and now the specialist is claiming to have lost her records, so the whole process apparently has to start again. I feel that the whole situation is out of my hands, and that I have no control over what happens to her anymore. I would gratefully appreciate any advice. Thanks.