My 80 year old husband has severe mixed dementia. He shaves most mornings but doesn't really wash or clean his teeth. I am his main carer and today, I suggested he had a shower, his first for 10 days! He refused point blank and became very aggressive towards me. He was very angry and turned it round by telling me I was the one who needed a shower, amongst other name calling. I have walked away to give him the chance to calm down but I don't know what to do next. Do I persist or try again another day? I really can't imagine he will allow a stranger to wash him so I don't think a professional carer is an option. Any advice would be appreciated.