Thank youI'm glad things are calm. I hope ou are able to enjoy the rest of your time there.
Too late for today's situation but in the future I would suggest if he won't go, make arrangements for care at home and go without him. The grandchild has to be considered here, how disappointing for him to be denied seeing his Grandma.
i couldnt agree more. if my husband couldnt go, i would stay as well. i think we need to be more open with the grandchildren. how will they learn if we dont teach themYes I`m glad too @Shem56 It was a risky situation, you decided to go and it worked out well.
I would never have left my sick husband for anything that wasn`t absolutely necessary. Nor could I have enjoyed myself.
Any grandchild could learn to understand a poorly grandfather takes priority over a party. It`s what helps to develop sensitivity in a soul.
Could the Grandchild come over tomorrow, with birthday cake for grandad, and to show their best presents?
Might be easier with fewer people in his known surroundings.
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This subject has raised lots of different feelings and views hasn't it. Things are progressive with this illness and perhaps next time will be an entirely different story I guess we have to make the call at the time. If there is a trusted person who can keep an eye on PWD then it's surely beneficial to the carer to have that time out. If not, then family will have to take on board this can't happen and understand.i couldnt agree more. if my husband couldnt go, i would stay as well. i think we need to be more open with the grandchildren. how will they learn if we dont teach them
This subject has raised lots of different feelings and views hasn't it.
It certainly has. Its interesting- views from different pespectives and differentpoints along the journey.This subject has raised lots of different feelings and views hasn't it. Things are progressive with this illness and perhaps next time will be an entirely different story I guess we have to make the call at the time. If there is a trusted person who can keep an eye on PWD then it's surely beneficial to the carer to have that time out. If not, then family will have to take on board this can't happen and understand.
i hope you are having a good time and if there are others that can sit with your husband then maybe you can relax as well. i hope your grandson has a lovely birthdayThis subject has raised lots of different feelings and views hasn't it. Things are progressive with this illness and perhaps next time will be an entirely different story I guess we have to make the call at the time. If there is a trusted person who can keep an eye on PWD then it's surely beneficial to the carer to have that time out. If not, then family will have to take on board this can't happen and understand.
I hope you enjoy yourself @Shem56 but I think you looking at getting carers in now. You do need a breakIt has @Shem56 and shows there are no hard and fast rules. Nor do we know at the time of posting just how appropriate it is for the person with dementia to be left with another .
I hope the party goes well .
@Dunroamin I think it's very important to hear from sufferer's of Dementia on here too, not just the viewpoint of carers all the time. Your input is valuable, I hope this hasn't put you off of contributing. This is supposed to be a forum that provides support. Best wishes xApologies if any offence given - and yes carers do make so many sacrifices and face a dreadful time. My own husband cannot see atm due to complex eye surgery and I depend on extended family for posting and all sorts. I was merely speaking up for those of us who have dementia, as only we can understand what life is like from the inside of a damaged and deteriorating brain
Thank you. Its been lovely. Hubby has been fine. I think he is ready for home today though.!i hope you are having a good time and if there are others that can sit with your husband then maybe you can relax as well. i hope your grandson has a lovely birthday
Absolutely, I could not agree more.Thank you @Dunroamin
Your input is always important and you have never caused offence to my knowledge. We need as many people with dementia as possible to help carers understand how it is.
I'm considering a cleaner for a couple of hours a week. Will have to think about it.I hope you enjoy yourself @Shem56 but I think you looking at getting carers in now. You do need a break
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I started off with AgeUKs Help at Home scheme. They dont do it in all areas, but if they do I have found my lady extremely helpful. Two hours a week seems about right. They wont do personal care, but they will do cleaning, laundry, bed making, shopping and companionship. It was a good introduction for OH to get used to other people around. I now have carers come in to help him wash and dress and I also have gardeners helping me too.I'm considering a cleaner for a couple of hours a week. Will have to think about it.
This is a good idea from @Grannie G, @Shem69.I`m glad it worked out well for you @Shem56
I got agency carers in on the pretext they were cleaners and came to help me. It helped my husband get used to others in the house.
They encouraged me to go out and leave him with them for a couple of hours and it worked really well.