Hi. I care for my dad who is almost ninety and has Alzheimer’s but not aggressive, difficult etc. He lives with my mom who cannot walk very well and is deaf (will not wear a hearing aid). She is eighty five. They manage with a lot of help just from my brother and myself as mom “doesn’t want strangers in the house” . She doesn’t appear to understand about dad’s dementia as she constantly complains about dad’s lack of conversation, inability to remember things.I honestly think she would be better if she saw more people but refuses visits from friends and won’t have carers in to assist with meals etc. It’s getting to the point where I dread phoning or going there because of the complaints about how awful everything is. Dad goes to a day centre two days a week so she does have respite from him. She cannot go out unassisted herself due to her mobility issues. How do I get her to accept help from outside? She would like my brother or I to be there constantly but we have jobs, families etc. I spend almost every free moment with them.